stupid assumptions people make about others

I'm from my dad's second marriage. His parents never accepted me, my sister or my mother, and when I had to live with them in Colorado while my parents looked for a house in California, their dislike of us became even more obvious. It was awful for a nine year old girl to feel like a second class grandchild all the time and to hear my grandmother saying unkind things about my mother.

My stepmothers mother felt it was necessary to speak vile words about my mother. I got pretty darn angry and had a huge fight with her and told her not to talk about my Mom again. Then had a bigger fight with my stepmother and father over it. Today I don't speak to my father and don't know whether he's alive or dead. The saddest part is I adored him when I was little, now I no longer care. My stepdad is my real dad.
It's terrible of adults to put children in that situation. :hugs
 
do keep in mind wild meat is better then factory farmed meat. and that is awesome about all the pelts (i have yet to trap/catch anything) but i will save the pelts of those i catch or sell them. (i mean a coyote goes for 100$ where i live)
100% Agreed, Wild meat is much better than factory meat, They aren't in a cage just big enough for them to stick their heads throw and get fat all the way up until they're slaughtered, This is also why i'd love to raise my own meat birds, They would have over 15 acres to free range on instead of those tiny little cages,
$100 for a coyote pelt? Man! Most coyote pelts around here go for like $15-$25. I've got about 50 acres of forest in front of me and 30 acres of forest behind so i'll see/hear a coyote quite often. I'd defiantly make a profit on coyotes if they were $100 around here! ;)
 
100% Agreed, Wild meat is much better than factory meat, They aren't in a cage just big enough for them to stick their heads throw and get fat all the way up until they're slaughtered, This is also why i'd love to raise my own meat birds, They would have over 15 acres to free range on instead of those tiny little cages,
$100 for a coyote pelt? Man! Most coyote pelts around here go for like $15-$25. I've got about 50 acres of forest in front of me and 30 acres of forest behind so i'll see/hear a coyote quite often. I'd defiantly make a profit on coyotes if they were $100 around here! ;)
do keep in mind wild meat is better then factory farmed meat. and that is awesome about all the pelts (i have yet to trap/catch anything) but i will save the pelts of those i catch or sell them. (i mean a coyote goes for 100$ where i live)
Dang, $100 for coyote pelt??? Where do you hail from? Here in PA the average is $18... :(
 
People assuming things about you... I think we've all had dealt with that before.

Finished reading everyone's post and i'll be honest. My faith in humanity has dropped a little. It's so amazing to see people being treated differently based off of their looks or how they act to just shrug it off like that. I used to go to a public school up until 3rd grade and started homeschooling. The reason I was pulled out of school was because I wasn't the happiest of children. I guess you could say I was depressed as that was what my mother would say but I don't really like using that word. I was frequently picked on by most of the girls because I hanged out with the boys and some of the boys would pick on me because I hanged out with them, well except for two of them who actually enjoyed hanging out with me. After I started homeschooling my grades had improved and I had the time to actually spend some time with my animals.

I think I was in seventh grade when I had decided to cut my hair short.. Mostly because I thought that this one actress from my favorite show, Primeval, Hannah Spearritt, looked so cool! The other reason was because I completely neglected my hair. It doesn't happen as much now but back then I would get teased for having short hair saying that I looked like a boy or that I was in to girls.

I remember last thanksgiving My parents invited some family over and my cousin, who's about a year younger than me, brought his friend over from hockey practice so we all sat down and played some video games. I remember seeing his friend glance over at me then whispering something over to my cousin quietly chuckling so I asked him if something was wrong, I got a look from him as though he were trying so hard to not laugh and my cousin looked over awkwardly and said 'He was talking about if you were uh.' I think he too embarrassed to say anymore so I asked if he thought I was a lesbian and he nodded while his friend cracked a smile and laughed for a second. And so I politely responded saying 'No I am straight' then continued to play the game we were playing while ignoring the little comments he would lean over and whisper to my cousin like 'This will be too easy playing against her' Or 'Who taught her how to play video games?' Since apparently it's impossible for a girl to be good at video games.

Now, I'm very short considering my age and very thin.. Though I'm not done growing yet I have a feeling that i'm not going to get any taller. I have short dirty blonde hair and blue eyes, Not grey, blue, I am also very fit since it's mostly me carrying buckets of water out for my horses, goats, chickens, ducks, turkeys, etc everyday. My personality also isn't 'Girly' or quote, 'How it should be'. I always wear flannel shirts and a cap, Cloths that are a bit big on me, I'm very messy and almost never have a clean room, I enjoy gory/scary movies.. Anyone ever seen the movie Hacksaw Ridged? Best movie I've ever saw. I hunt/trap quite often and have animal pelts in my bedroom on my walls, and I love watching baseball (Go Dodgers!)

Now i'm not a super religious person like my grandfather, I believe in God, but I also believe in evolution, I guess you could say I don't really have a religion and because of that I get a lot of crap from people saying 'Oh you should be *Insert Religion* Or you're going to burn in Hell!' and stuff like that. I go to a youth group with a hole bunch of people who are a bunch of major Christians. Not to be rude but all the kids are bratty there, They'll go and talk crap about the other kids.. Or during games the 'popular' group would single out some kid and purposely get him/her out every time we'd play. I remember one of the kids (Who I absolutely hated) Came up to me saying 'You look like a boy, Why do you cut your hair so short? You should grow it out or everyone's going to think you're into girls or that you're a trans!' Oh I so badly wanted to just give him the ol' Punch-A-Roo but instead I just smiled at him and explained why I liked my hair short and why he shouldn't be going around talking to people like that.

I honestly though don't care about what other people think. I like me, My friends and family like me, and I have my animals, that's really all that matters. Though it doesn't hurt to bring home another animal to the farm whenever i'm feeling down ;)
You sound like a truly awesome and amazing and beautiful person. I would be so proud to have someone like you as my daughter.
 
100% Agreed, Wild meat is much better than factory meat, They aren't in a cage just big enough for them to stick their heads throw and get fat all the way up until they're slaughtered, This is also why i'd love to raise my own meat birds, They would have over 15 acres to free range on instead of those tiny little cages,
$100 for a coyote pelt? Man! Most coyote pelts around here go for like $15-$25. I've got about 50 acres of forest in front of me and 30 acres of forest behind so i'll see/hear a coyote quite often. I'd defiantly make a profit on coyotes if they were $100 around here! ;)
ya we have tons of coyotes where i live just a new trapper so i have no skill on catching them, getting close.

Dang, $100 for coyote pelt??? Where do you hail from? Here in PA the average is $18... :(
Saskatchewan Canada, my friends buddy averaged 183$ last year per pelt. then when i went to go get my traps i was told go after as many coyotes as you can there bringing in good money here. (keep in mind this is CAN dollars so not as good as US dollars)

edit: just did a conversion and our coyotes bring in around 77 US dollars.
 
People assuming things about you... I think we've all had dealt with that before.

Finished reading everyone's post and i'll be honest. My faith in humanity has dropped a little. It's so amazing to see people being treated differently based off of their looks or how they act to just shrug it off like that. I used to go to a public school up until 3rd grade and started homeschooling. The reason I was pulled out of school was because I wasn't the happiest of children. I guess you could say I was depressed as that was what my mother would say but I don't really like using that word. I was frequently picked on by most of the girls because I hanged out with the boys and some of the boys would pick on me because I hanged out with them, well except for two of them who actually enjoyed hanging out with me. After I started homeschooling my grades had improved and I had the time to actually spend some time with my animals.

I think I was in seventh grade when I had decided to cut my hair short.. Mostly because I thought that this one actress from my favorite show, Primeval, Hannah Spearritt, looked so cool! The other reason was because I completely neglected my hair. It doesn't happen as much now but back then I would get teased for having short hair saying that I looked like a boy or that I was in to girls.

I remember last thanksgiving My parents invited some family over and my cousin, who's about a year younger than me, brought his friend over from hockey practice so we all sat down and played some video games. I remember seeing his friend glance over at me then whispering something over to my cousin quietly chuckling so I asked him if something was wrong, I got a look from him as though he were trying so hard to not laugh and my cousin looked over awkwardly and said 'He was talking about if you were uh.' I think he too embarrassed to say anymore so I asked if he thought I was a lesbian and he nodded while his friend cracked a smile and laughed for a second. And so I politely responded saying 'No I am straight' then continued to play the game we were playing while ignoring the little comments he would lean over and whisper to my cousin like 'This will be too easy playing against her' Or 'Who taught her how to play video games?' Since apparently it's impossible for a girl to be good at video games.

Now, I'm very short considering my age and very thin.. Though I'm not done growing yet I have a feeling that i'm not going to get any taller. I have short dirty blonde hair and blue eyes, Not grey, blue, I am also very fit since it's mostly me carrying buckets of water out for my horses, goats, chickens, ducks, turkeys, etc everyday. My personality also isn't 'Girly' or quote, 'How it should be'. I always wear flannel shirts and a cap, Cloths that are a bit big on me, I'm very messy and almost never have a clean room, I enjoy gory/scary movies.. Anyone ever seen the movie Hacksaw Ridged? Best movie I've ever saw. I hunt/trap quite often and have animal pelts in my bedroom on my walls, and I love watching baseball (Go Dodgers!)

Now i'm not a super religious person like my grandfather, I believe in God, but I also believe in evolution, I guess you could say I don't really have a religion and because of that I get a lot of crap from people saying 'Oh you should be *Insert Religion* Or you're going to burn in Hell!' and stuff like that. I go to a youth group with a hole bunch of people who are a bunch of major Christians. Not to be rude but all the kids are bratty there, They'll go and talk crap about the other kids.. Or during games the 'popular' group would single out some kid and purposely get him/her out every time we'd play. I remember one of the kids (Who I absolutely hated) Came up to me saying 'You look like a boy, Why do you cut your hair so short? You should grow it out or everyone's going to think you're into girls or that you're a trans!' Oh I so badly wanted to just give him the ol' Punch-A-Roo but instead I just smiled at him and explained why I liked my hair short and why he shouldn't be going around talking to people like that.

I honestly though don't care about what other people think. I like me, My friends and family like me, and I have my animals, that's really all that matters. Though it doesn't hurt to bring home another animal to the farm whenever i'm feeling down ;)

The next time someone asks you "Why do you cut your hair so short?" simply reply with the question "Why do you care?" and walk away and if they give you an answer say "Oh" and then walk away this lets them know that their opinion means nothing to you.

Or if you feel you must give an answer say "because I can"

You do not have to justify how you look to anyone.
 
The war was horrible in Hungary. I spent a month in Budapest. The buildings still show signs of a war ravaged country. The history is right there in front of you. It's amazing they survived and were able to start over in America.
My grandparents from Hungary were never in the camps as they lived in the country side, but my grandmother’s mom was killed by a bomb when the allies bombed the Hungarian oil feilds. My grandparents from Hungary lost almost their entire extended family in the war. My grandmother’s best friend was a Holocaust Survivor. She was also from Hungary. Her name was Ritta and she loved cockerels/roosters, kakas (pronounced kakash) in Hungarian. She passed away 3 years ago. She had a son and a daughter the son is married and lives over seas with his 2 or 3 children. Ritta’s daughter never got married unfortunately. Since she her son and his family barely visited her, my grandmother, parents, me and my sister would visit her very often. We became like her grandchildren and we called her Momma Ritta. I remember fondly playing in Momma Ritta’s backyard with my sister, my parents and grandmother were on the porch talking to Momma Ritta about her experiences in Hungary before WWII, when she was in Auschwitz, & after the war. When Momma Ritta passed away her son didn’t even come to her funeral! I was so upset, like I get it he lives over seas, but you’re not going to go to your own mother’s funeral?! He sent his daughter afterwards to pick out stuff that she wanted from Momma Ritta’s house. I have a cockerel/rooster statue that belonged to Momma Ritta. I named a chicken after her and if I get an accidental cockerel in March his name will be Kakas (pronounced kakash).
you know another assumption i can't stand is, when you believe in something (or do say an activity) and just assumed your a bad person in that group, let me explain.

what got me think was today BC made grizzly bear hunting illegal today, due to the actions of trophy hunters (now i disagree with hunting for horns or just to kill an animal for no reason.) but then there is talk about how all hunting is hurting animal populations and how its a barbaric practice and inhumane, going on to pretty much say these anti-hunters are better and us hunters are and i quote "sub-humans".

now most of these comments are on hunting videos, they just assume every hunter kills just for fun and sport, now i want to hunt bears but i also want to eat them. does that make me a bad person?

also another thing a read is how a trap can kill a small child (then go on to show a foot hold) um what? i put my hands in every leg trap i use before i set them for animals. they don't hurt. last night i was messing with a duke number 3 padded jaw and caught my self and i have no broken fingers at all.
sorry if this is off-topic just had to get this off my chest :)
They’re always having deer hunting because the deer population is out of control! We need hunters like you to keep their numbers in check.
 
You guys have all brought tears to my eyes! It's a complicated world and it just reminds me how easy it is to hurt people with stupid remarks, especially those closest to you. That's probably why most of us love our animals so much isn't it? They don't judge us, they don't care what we look like, just that we love them and take care of them
So true. That’s why I sometimes prefer the company of my chickens and other pets over people.
 
My grandparents from Hungary were never in the camps as they lived in the country side, but my grandmother’s mom was killed by a bomb when the allies bombed the Hungarian oil feilds. My grandparents from Hungary lost almost their entire extended family in the war. My grandmother’s best friend was a Holocaust Survivor. She was also from Hungary. Her name was Ritta and she loved cockerels/roosters, kakas (pronounced kakash) in Hungarian. She passed away 3 years ago. She had a son and a daughter the son is married and lives over seas with his 2 or 3 children. Ritta’s daughter never got married unfortunately. Since she her son and his family barely visited her, my grandmother, parents, me and my sister would visit her very often. We became like her grandchildren and we called her Momma Ritta. I remember fondly playing in Momma Ritta’s backyard with my sister, my parents and grandmother were on the porch talking to Momma Ritta about her experiences in Hungary before WWII, when she was in Auschwitz, & after the war. When Momma Ritta passed away her son didn’t even come to her funeral! I was so upset, like I get it he lives over seas, but you’re not going to go to your own mother’s funeral?! He sent his daughter afterwards to pick out stuff that she wanted from Momma Ritta’s house. I have a cockerel/rooster statue that belonged to Momma Ritta. I named a chicken after her and if I get an accidental cockerel in March his name will be Kakas (pronounced kakash).
They’re always having deer hunting because the deer population is out of control! We need hunters like you to keep their numbers in check.

I was so upset, like I get it he lives over seas, but you’re not going to go to your own mother’s funeral?!

Be careful now you are making assumptions as to why he didn't go to the funeral.

If he didn't see her while she was alive why would he want to see her now that she is dead? or perhaps he had very good reason.
 
I was so upset, like I get it he lives over seas, but you’re not going to go to your own mother’s funeral?!

Be careful now you are making assumptions as to why he didn't go to the funeral.

If he didn't see her while she was alive why would he want to see her now that she is dead? or perhaps he had very good reason.
I know I should give him the benefit of the doubt, but it still just eats at me that he didn’t go.
 

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