stupid assumptions people make about others

[Stayc]

i have anxiety one of my fears is people judging me, in there heads, its a weird fear, i much rather some one just tell me the truth then keep it to themselves or there opinion about me then hide and judge me later.

My hubby has a social anxiety disorder and i truly believe it is the judgment of others that drives his anxiety. As much as i tell him not to worry about it...he cant leave the house if there is a speck on his clothes, hasn't shaved, or can't find his hat. Once we are out he is a constant panic. As soon as we hit the doors he is lighting a cigarette. I try my best but i cant help him. I think it's because he is a judger himself.
Im in no way implying you are a judger everyone has insecurities. I just believe from the way he judges people he feels he has to be "perfect" in those same respects when he is around people.
You are beautiful the way you are. You have to know that! Believe it! There is only one you, flaunt it! Be proud!!

 

[perchie.girl]

i have anxiety one of my fears is people judging me, in there heads, its a weird fear, i much rather some one just tell me the truth then keep it to themselves or there opinion about me then hide and judge me later.

Don't we all...not wierd at all... but its a fear that can be disabling... I know from experience... just remember they have the very same thing going on in thier heads as well. You may find they w erent thinking of you at all...

deb

 

[perchie.girl]

nice to meet you deb

nice to meet you as well

 

[KettermanHillCoop]

You just can't sweat the small stuff.

I've been mistaken by guys as a lesbian because I'll meander into a bar with camo hat, Carhartt jacket and my muck boots on...and kick their butts on the pool table. I just smile and say, "Nope...you just got your butt kicked by a camo clad, guy-loving chick." Lol

I've also been hit on by lesbians because of my same attire. I politely say, "I'm flattered, but I bat from the other side of the plate."

No hard feelings or anything. It's all good. As long as no one is nasty about the misconceptions...

 

[perchie.girl]

My hubby has a social anxiety disorder and i truly believe it is the judgment of others that drives his anxiety. As much as i tell him not to worry about it...he cant leave the house if there is a speck on his clothes, hasn't shaved, or can't find his hat. Once we are out he is a constant panic. As soon as we hit the doors he is lighting a cigarette. I try my best but i cant help him. I think it's because he is a judger himself.

I come from bloodlines of social anxiety people... Mom wouldnt go out of the house at all for several years... and my Son who has managed to finish College at UCSD... Just this semester. Anxiety meds and a good Psychologist with Psychiatry back up have helped Immensly.

I have the same tendancies but so far only hints of the problem... at Sixty two now they are rearing up now and then and I deal with it because I know what it is.

Hang in there I know what its like to be the cheering team.....
deb

 

[Stayc]

I come from bloodlines of social anxiety people... Mom wouldnt go out of the house at all for several years... and my Son who has managed to finish College at UCSD... Just this semester. Anxiety meds and a good Psychologist with Psychiatry back up have helped Immensly.

I have the same tendancies but so far only hints of the problem... at Sixty two now they are rearing up now and then and I deal with it because I know what it is.

Hang in there I know what its like to be the cheering team.....
deb

I hope you don't dwell on those tendencies. You have to remind yourself just how amazing you are. I can see thru these posts your pretty awesome never doubt who you are. That is what matters most. congrats for your son! That's quite an achievement, I know your proud!

 

[lazy gardener]

I once had a gal call me about an upcoming conference. she wanted to bring a friend. But... didn't want to bring the friend unless the speaker at this conference met her criteria of what was acceptable. "is she fat? But, is she fat???" She kept asking me. How very sad that this woman based her entire social agenda on outward appearance.

 

[Stayc]

I once had a gal call me about an upcoming conference. she wanted to bring a friend. But... didn't want to bring the friend unless the speaker at this conference met her criteria of what was acceptable. "is she fat? But, is she fat???" She kept asking me. How very sad that this woman based her entire social agenda on outward appearance.

I deal with that alot. Like, why does that matter? You know? I had a close friend who owned a gym and did competitions. She got thyroid cancer and couldn't control her weight any longer, Had to sell her gym. It's like, how can people be so cruel. Walk a mile in their shoes, then judge. Sorry u had to go through that. None of that should ever matter

 

[FlyWheel]

Jello is gross, gelatin is made from pigs skin and hooves then made into candy. gross.

Gary

It USED to be. Nowadays it's made artificially.

I used to love kids, always got along and played well with them. Nowadays you give a child more than five minutes attention and people think you're a Pedo!

 

[perchie.girl]

I hope you don't dwell on those tendencies. You have to remind yourself just how amazing you are. I can see thru these posts your pretty awesome never doubt who you are. That is what matters most. congrats for your son! That's quite an achievement, I know your proud!

Oh I do and thank you.... and I am bustin at the seams over his accomplishment in more ways than just education.

deb