stupid assumptions people make about others

[Stayc]

Oh I do and thank you.... and I am bustin at the seams over his accomplishment in more ways than just education.

deb

 

[BYC910]

Very interesting . Dr. Martin Luther King made many speeches in his life . While many remember him for the I have a dream speech . There were many just as great made In public forums . If you have never heard Rise up and say I am somebody he gave to collage students in Ohio Easy to find on youtube .I promise you won't be disappointed. It is a very good speech for young people with insecurities . One who does not respect others does not respect themselves . There is no shame in being who you are and no shame in excepting others as they chose to be . BTW I'M a 64 year old white male from the mid south . I heard this speech when I was eight years old or so . Did it change my opinion towards other races . No my parents taught me to respect all people no matter the race . And practiced what they preached . It did however change my opinion of myself.

 

[sourland]

You know something - I really like this thread.

I do too, deedee. You folks think like me - don't mean to scare you with that.

 

[Sunshine Flock]

Here, let me describe a gay woman for you:

Tall, thin, flat chested, shaves her hair to a mere half an inch long, NO makeup, prone to forested legs and other body parts, loves Ellen DeGeneres, loves rainbows.

Yep? Nope. I just described myself.

When I started clearcutting my hair five years ago, my mom was so angry she would turn her nose up in disgust every time I made eye contact with her. My dad wrote a poem called "My Daughter the It."

I'm a forty-seven year old It, people. And to prove my itness to you, a three year old in a sparkle tutu and princess shirt turned around at the grocery store a few years ago and asked me, rather loudly, "Are you a boy?"

I love how we educate children to think all women have Barbie boobs and wear makeup and fairy princess outfits.

Does this look like a boy to you, or does she look like someone who is merely different and maybe dances to her own crafty little tune in the woods?

 

[lazy gardener]

CS, I'm so very sorry your parents couldn't see past the tiny little box they have built for themselves.

 

[perchie.girl]

LOL.... I have had several gay friends over the years... ONLY ONE was flamboyant.... He was a hoot. and had a heart of gold... and a fierce attitude... He was a five time winner of the Drag Queen award here.

and Yep we worked at a Heating and Airconditioning company... He was the buyer... out of all those construction types and macho types we only had ONE man who was openly contemptuous. My boss... It wrankled him that his boss hired me as well an over weight Gal...



To be honest the world has become for the most part a more accepting and generally accomodating place.... Oy yea there are some left over hold overs and over dones.... and in some places glass ceilings... but in general I really do think the human race is making progress.

deb

 

[perchie.girl]

Here, let me describe a gay woman for you:

Tall, thin, flat chested, shaves her hair to a mere half an inch long, NO makeup, prone to forested legs and other body parts, loves Ellen DeGeneres, loves rainbows.

Yep? Nope. I just described myself.

When I started clearcutting my hair five years ago, my mom was so angry she would turn her nose up in disgust every time I made eye contact with her. My dad wrote a poem called "My Daughter the It."

I'm a forty-seven year old It, people. And to prove my itness to you, a three year old in a sparkle tutu and princess shirt turned around at the grocery store a few years ago and asked me, rather loudly, "Are you a boy?"

I love how we educate children to think all women have Barbie boobs and wear makeup and fairy princess outfits.

Does this look like a boy to you, or does she look like someone who is merely different and maybe dances to her own crafty little tune in the woods?

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I would love to look like you ..... sadly NOT in my genetics... But when I am thin I have my own self... the guys liked too. Farm stock sturdy... not unpleasant to the eye.... LOL.

 

[perchie.girl]

I do too, deedee. You folks think like me - don't mean to scare you with that.

You dont Scarrrree meeee.... LOL.

 

[Sunshine Flock]

I can't stand photos of myself. Very few exist. But this discussion struck a chord.

I'm not so thin anymore, but I used to be rail thin, as were my parents. Years ago when I showed up to work one day with a shorter haircut (not shaved), my employer accused me of having an eating disorder. I told her my haircut made me look thinner than I already was, and she argued, "No. You have an eating disorder, and you need help."

It runs both ways. There's no escaping judgement if you're the slightest bit different. Too thin, not thin enough. Not feminine enough.

One day I went to CVS to exchange something that stopped working. The manager had just approved a return for an attractive young woman with her mother. But for me, in my baggy clothes and muddy shoes from digging up rocks on my property all day, I needed a receipt. He viewed me in the same light as a transient. We have a big problem with transients and the homeless here. He lumped sum this rather ragged, makeupless It creature into the "Cheater, liar, theft" category and refused the return.

Until I stated my case and reminded him of a return he did for me last week, when I was dressed nicely and in better spirits.

Favoritism gets you favors. Not looking up to par gets you judgement.

 

[Sunshine Flock]

P.S. I've been "accused" of being gay my entire life. Does gay really encapsulate a certain look? It's such a shame people can't just be gay if they are indeed gay, and those who aren't must be chided and questioned if they have "that" look.