Surely, I'm not the only one....?

[3peeps]

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My answer? I'm worth a clean house. ME. I deserve to live in a calm place so I will make it that way. Many times, the family follows suit because they find it's so relaxing to have it nice for a change.

It's very easy to get angry about things my husband doesn't do. I have equated that with, "he doesn't respect me or care about anything." No. He's forgetful. He's tired. He's human. He does so many other wonderful things for me and for our daughter that I've tried to retrain myself into being thankful. And if I've asked him for help with the socks over and over and still can't get over it, they just might end up stuffed in his pillowcase. "How did these get in here?!" "Oh, my goodness, honey, I'm so tired I must be loosing my mind."

My husband got sidetracked on the computer one night when we were supposed to have a "date". This happens constantly. So I decide to get ready for bed, hop in the shower. When he hears me he comes rushing into the bathroom..."are you already going to bed?" I whip open the shower curtain and DOUSE him with the detachable shower head and remind him that he missed a very sultry date. It then became a joke so we could go to sleep "normal" again.

 

[ruby]

I do not go to showers (bridal, baby or otherwise) or weddings. I am very open to my family and friends, they know if they invite me I will not show up and I don't care what they say about me! Weddings are a waste of money and people who have more than one are tacky to have another shower and another wedding. While I was reading y'alls post my husband said "did you write that, 'cause it sound like you" thanks for the laughs! I really like the gal who said she got drunk and talked of birth horror stories...

 

[GwenFarms]

I don't like showers either, but I always feel obligated to go. Just as bad as showers is all the Tupperware, Mary Kay and Alloette parties...now there is the Chez Ami, Pampered Chef and the list just goes on. I despise these things, but I always feel so obligated. Ugh.

 

[purr]

well I only go to showers when the people are close to me.When I got married and had my daughter my showers were given to me by my sister-in-laws they are family affairs, but I have a very large family. So usually about 100 people. All the food was made by the sister-in-laws and guests who want to contribute which means that there are age old, passed down family recipes everywhere.And I love food.
We are a very down to earth family and I love these gatherings because it is a way for the women in my family to create a bond with the new bride.I felt so welcome by my husband's new family.
Now with the younger generation it is time to pass the buck my sister-in-laws and I have turned over the reins.
But they nieces have totally screwed it up, they want their boyfriends and husbands there. They don't send out the invites in time.they put bring a dish instead of RSVP so the person calls up and if they say would you like me to bring something. you say what would you like to bring. and write it down so you don't end up with 8 potato salads. Not to mention the fact that it is just rude to tell folks "bring a dish"
Sorry this is long , seems I got on a rant.
So all my life I have loved these events and now I just hate them.
My DD feels the same way cause I taught her right!

 

[Lunachick]

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This is how I feel at most of these functions.

You guys are great, it's so good to know there's a bunch of you girls out there that feel this way!

 

[arlee453]

I don't go to them either - not unless its my sister or my best friend.

I hate showers. My last baby the church ladies wanted to throw me a shower. It was my 4th kid. I didn't need any clothes, etc.

I told them not to. They insisted. So, I said make it a 'disposable baby shower'. Meaning that I asked for disposable baby products like diapers and wipes. That's really all I needed.

Some of the ladies were a bit annoyed that I didn't want a bunch of fruu fruu baby clothes or whatever, but let me tell you, I ended up with about 3 months worth of diapers - it was the BEST shower!

But I digress...

I'd buy a gift and either call with regrets that you already have plans that day (your plan may be as simple as just to sit home and avoid the shower...)

OR wait until the day of and then call and say you have had something come up that you will not be able to attend.

Then drop your gift off (ahead of time is nice so she can open it at the shower) and enjoy your day.

NO GUILT! An invtation is someone asking for your time. They can ask, you can say no, Thank you....

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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3Peeps likes to give a different kind of shower!

 

[gypsygirl1421]

Here Here!!!!! I am glad I am not the only one. I am skipping out on one for a cousin of my DH at the end of july and sneaking off to Cape Cod to avoid a friend's next weekend. Don't tell anyone!

 

[purr]

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I hate the cape in the summer, no wait I love the cape I hate waiting in traffic to get over the bridge , although its better now.
But did you see the traffic for the 4th.

 

[dogzrule5]

Ditto to all of the above.

Guess what the new trend is now? Sip and Show parties. This is after the baby is born and couples get together to drink wine and look at the baby and all its stuff.

ugh - as if the showers aren't bad enough!!!

Maybe it's b/c I'm older, but I have too many things at home that I'd rather be doing like gardening, sewing, painting, fixing the housing for my birds....etc, etc, etc. there aren't enough hours in the day for me!!!