Tattoo Wanted - Wife Objects.... What Do Ya Think?

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Boyd, Oct 9, 2009.

  1. GaNewChick

    GaNewChick Songster

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  2. Wildsky

    Wildsky Wild Egg!

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    Quote:So you don't ask your husband to do anything?

    Would you actively do something to annoy, turn him off, or generally something he doesn't like?

    I mean we all have relationships that work differently. Maybe mine with my husband is just strange. We usually ask eachother if something is okay with the other, as we would not want to purposely do something to offend the other. It's not ownership, just courtesy to us.

    Then again, I suppose it depends on how much something means to someone. I wouldn't decide that the bedroom is going to be hot pink without asking my husband. I would especially do it after I asked and he said he'd strongly prefer it NOT to be hot pink. To me, it would just seem like I totally blew off his opinion and did what I wanted to do.

    Not trying to offend, just trying to understand how different people make different relationships work.

    -Kim

    [​IMG] Kim! My husband and I are so much alike, and we've been together a while, we automatically know that the other wouldn't like a HOT PINK bedroom.

    I guess being that we're so much alike there is almost no need to ask about anything, we do discuss things, but we never have to ask permission.
     
  3. Chickenmaven

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    Quote:I think that if a spouse or partner sees something as unattractive & one goes & does it anyway, they are showing that they don't care. Disregard for your other-half's preferences is a relationship killer.
     
  4. Buff Hooligans

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    Quote:True, you may have the tattoo of your dreams, but live with a person who is reminded every day that you overrode their plea. Yup, a relationship killer is right.
     
  5. speckledhen

    speckledhen Intentional Solitude

    I don't think you should desecrate that body with what some loosely call 'art' (you can tell I hate tatoos, right? Never saw one that looked good on anyone anytime)
    Nope, no way, especially if your wife is against it. I would find my husband grossly unattractive if he got "inked" and if he did it when I objected, he'd be more than just unattractive-he'd be in the doghouse for a very, very long time.
     
  6. Wolf-Kim

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    Quote:Oh, my husband and I are the same way. I couldn't stand pink in the house, I was simply using it as an example.

    Boyd knows his wife doesn't like tats, and she knows he does. I think if he pushed the issue enough, he'd get an "okay", it may not be an enthusiastic okay, but at least she'd have agreed.

    Permission is not what I'm after, it's merely discussion and acknowledgement is all. My husband knows I like animals, and when I ask to bring something home he knows it's something that means strongly to me and he usually says okay. Is he excited about it? Nah, but he knows it's coming and appreciates me discussing it with him. But if he said no I couldn't have an elephant and we thoroughly discuss it and he gives some good reasons, I'm not going to bring home an elephant. LOL
     
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  7. Wolf-Kim

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    Quote:[​IMG] I think it's blatently obvious you disaprove of tattoos. [​IMG]

    That first line just killed me!
     
  8. Wildsky

    Wildsky Wild Egg!

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    Quote:I bet a nice discussion between them would come to a nice end result that both could live with.

    (perhaps boyd could get a tramp stamp [​IMG] )
     
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  9. danielle82

    danielle82 A Good Egg

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    your wife objects to this and you are checking with BYC? [​IMG] oh my
    I love tats on men, but if my hubby wanted to "double-check" my opinion on something My feelings would be a little hurt

    I must add that I am not questioning your love for your wife, I am just giving a hard time [​IMG]
     
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  10. Wolf-Kim

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    Of course Boyd has to check with BYC!

    He's married to it of course! It's his "other" wife. [​IMG]
     

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