I'm so angry and I want to vent and maybe get some advice from my chicken friends...
My 15 year old son (turns 16 in Sept) is sneaking out to see his 17 year old girlfriend (who is also our neighbor.) This is the 2nd time I've caught him sneaking out - the first time was about 3 weeks ago. The only reason I found out in the first place, was due to the fact that he left a pair of black jeans on the floor in his room, it had rained during the night and the bottoms of his pants were wet from going through the wet grass. I wasn't being nosey, I was just trying to wake him up to help me with the animals and do his chores. When that happened, I tried to be calm and talk to him about it and after we talked (calmly.) He ended up admitting that they have been sneaking out for months because her parents are so strict and won't let them see each other very often. We informed him that we don't condone this behavior and the next time he is caught sneaking out or breaking any of our rules, that we would call the girlfriend's parents and inform them of the situation.
We feel that her parents have the right to know what's going on with their daughter and our son. We would hope that they would show us the same courtesy...We don't trust our son anymore. We don't want to be a Grandparents at 35. Or worse if they are sneaking around having sex or whatever, what else are they doing...
Before this had all happened, we purchased him some condoms - if we can't stop them, maybe we could prevent pregnancy or STDs. We aren't stupid, we were young too and know all to well how in love teenagers can be and easy something can change their lives forever.
Since we can't trust him, we decided to set a few traps each night (since I've gotten so good at catching coons near my chicken coop.) I placed a piece of clear tape on the door/doorfacing. In the morning if the tape is free from the doorfacing, I know that someone went through the door during the night. This morning the tape was broken - I was so mad, he broke our trust again. I went straight to his room, woke him up and confronted him with this and he denies it again, but he knows he is so busted. I told him that was it and I was going to be making a phone call today to his girlfriend's parents.
We made this initial threat, hoping that this would be enough to make the 2 of them understand that we will not allow this to continue. Telling her parents is the last thing that we want to do - these are 2 really intelligent and good kids otherwise.
Are we making too big of an ordeal out of this, should I call her parents and tell them, What do yall think we should do?
Frustrated mother of hormone controlled teen,
Dana
My 15 year old son (turns 16 in Sept) is sneaking out to see his 17 year old girlfriend (who is also our neighbor.) This is the 2nd time I've caught him sneaking out - the first time was about 3 weeks ago. The only reason I found out in the first place, was due to the fact that he left a pair of black jeans on the floor in his room, it had rained during the night and the bottoms of his pants were wet from going through the wet grass. I wasn't being nosey, I was just trying to wake him up to help me with the animals and do his chores. When that happened, I tried to be calm and talk to him about it and after we talked (calmly.) He ended up admitting that they have been sneaking out for months because her parents are so strict and won't let them see each other very often. We informed him that we don't condone this behavior and the next time he is caught sneaking out or breaking any of our rules, that we would call the girlfriend's parents and inform them of the situation.
We feel that her parents have the right to know what's going on with their daughter and our son. We would hope that they would show us the same courtesy...We don't trust our son anymore. We don't want to be a Grandparents at 35. Or worse if they are sneaking around having sex or whatever, what else are they doing...
Before this had all happened, we purchased him some condoms - if we can't stop them, maybe we could prevent pregnancy or STDs. We aren't stupid, we were young too and know all to well how in love teenagers can be and easy something can change their lives forever.
Since we can't trust him, we decided to set a few traps each night (since I've gotten so good at catching coons near my chicken coop.) I placed a piece of clear tape on the door/doorfacing. In the morning if the tape is free from the doorfacing, I know that someone went through the door during the night. This morning the tape was broken - I was so mad, he broke our trust again. I went straight to his room, woke him up and confronted him with this and he denies it again, but he knows he is so busted. I told him that was it and I was going to be making a phone call today to his girlfriend's parents.
We made this initial threat, hoping that this would be enough to make the 2 of them understand that we will not allow this to continue. Telling her parents is the last thing that we want to do - these are 2 really intelligent and good kids otherwise.
Are we making too big of an ordeal out of this, should I call her parents and tell them, What do yall think we should do?
Frustrated mother of hormone controlled teen,
Dana
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