The Duggars and #19!

[saddina]

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There were only 3 of us and I had to "coparent" my sister and brother. It's how you learn to PARENT

I think alot of the concern there is that to many people it seems as if mom pops them out, and then hands them off once they're weaned or the next one comes to one of the older children. Now this happens in smaller families two, once my mom went back to work after my sister was born I "got to" spend the bulk of my waking time tending to a baby then toddler then preschooler while she ran a company. I'm still not sure why she had children, she didn't seem to enjoy any of it. There is a real oppertunity for abuse in a system of belief that tells girls thier function in life is determined by how many babies they can carry, and likewise insisting that children raise other children is a concern. Yes it's how things were done for thousands of years, but that doesn't mean it's the only or even the optimal way.

 

[redhen]

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[Camelot Farms]

I was thinking that this could be a thread about how to be more self sufficient in the lifestyles that we have all chosen...kids, no kids, 2 kids, 19 kids...

In our communities, we need to be have a healthy interdependence with the world around us. Sort of along the 'no man is an island' theme.

I do think that the Duggars are a good example of this regardless of the other issues. They seem to be doing something right financially...

I'd like to be the Duggars minus about 16 of the kids

 

[sweetcorn]

My great grandmother on my dads side , amish had 22 children, loved everyone to death as well as each of her grandkids , great grandkids and great greats . She was still having kids when her oldest children were married and having kids . My dad has many aunts and uncles younger than he as he was a son of one the oldest children. Each child was viewed as a blessing from god . No matter your opinion on how many children are right for you , it's really noone's place to judge anybody elses reproductive choices when they are caring for their own loved and wanted children. If the children are neglected or mistreated or a public burden , that's another matter , But we really should be kinder to each other, women in general, and spend less time judging each other . Same with the working mom vs nonworking mom arguments. We each do what is right for our own family, doesn't make any of us wrong or crazy or egotistical . I have 5 myself , 4 on purpose ( boys and one accidental late in life girl ) I also took in a teenaged girl from the age of 13 til 18 who had bad parents who didn't take care of her . Her mom just gave her to me. She's 30 and to this day calls me mom. Oldest is 22 , youngest is 4 , and they love having siblings . Far from the older ones being forced to raise the younger ones, my oldest boys ,when the last two were small , if I hadn't breast fed , I'd have never got to hold my own babies. They fought over who got to hold the babies ! I can't tell you how many times I've heard nasty comments , been told I'm crazy and honestly , I'm not telling people who decide to have none or one they are crazy, why do people feel it 's okay to comment like this ? The number of children I have is between me, my husband , my family and my God.

 

[babylady4]

If that family was 'truly' frugal; mom would be breastfeeding all of those babies instead of buying formula.

Human reproduction is set to work so mom gets pregnant appx. every 2-2.5 years after the birth of a child, depending on how often she nurses baby. Nursing on demand will usually inhibit ovulation; so the longer mom nurses the longer it will be between pregnancies.

I think there are others who are more frugal than these people who do quite well without all the hype. A particular group of people comes to mind .... the Amish perhaps?

Now that is a group of people who know how to be frugal! And no TV or electricity! How amazing!

 

[shelleyd2008]

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There were only 3 of us and I had to "coparent" my sister and brother. It's how you learn to PARENT

I'm 9 years older than my baby sister.....she called me mama before anyone else!

 

[shelleyd2008]

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Sorry, but she does breastfeed. What do you think she wears that cape for? Trying out for batmom?

 

[Shannon's Chix]

BATMOM!

 

[Sallyschickens]

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Yeah, that was a good one!

 

[saddina]

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There were only 3 of us and I had to "coparent" my sister and brother. It's how you learn to PARENT

I'm 9 years older than my baby sister.....she called me mama before anyone else!

I'm 12 than mine, my mum was um... hands off type, so I was the one to take her to the park, the sitters etc... Quite a few people assumed I was a teen mother, as my mum was never home.