The Front Porch Swing

[wyoDreamer]

Hey Dawn, how's the home building going?

 

[dpenning]

Great! It seems slow but I'm sure it is only perspective. . We have the windows in and the metal should be going on the roof in the next couple of weeks. We are going to be making the interior design decisions in the next few days, then it is sit back and watch. Blog is here http://blueridgebuild.blogspot.com

Thanks for asking

 

[lazy gardener]

Hey Bruce, Thanks a lot. Six weeks later, I'm okay but still adjusting from moving from Shreveport to Vancouver WA.

Lots of hills and mountains. That's the reason I can't get chickens. No flat backyard. I do have a deck for container gardening. Yea!! The prices are so much cheaper here for organic than deep south. Land taxes and homes are high but not my problem, thank goodness.

Sloped back yard is the perfect opportunity for chickens! I envision a small coop, with enclosed run. Toss all the yard debris in the high part of the run, they'd scratch it all down the hill. By the time it was nicely layered and built up at the bottom of the hill, you could open the trap door and shovel out the finished compost. A little flock of 4 - 6, maybe even bantams, a couple of flower pots with veggies on the down hill side, and you'd be golden. One BYC member even has a small coop built under his deck! Not saying it'd be worth upsetting family dynamics to push for, but still a possibility!!!

I feel sad that this thread has died, I miss you all! I just need a place to dump for the moment - so don't mind me.
When we decided to move back to Wisconsin, it was because DH was unhappy with his job. We decided to move back here and he would transfer within the company just for security and stable income until we are settled. Now, he has been disappointed by the raise he is getting for next year, the benefits package is being trimmed, and he has been put in a position of no-way-to succeed.
I am still looking for a stable job. Working part-time as morning stock is not really my idea of where I want to be for the rest of my life. There have not been many job postings for me and I have not been successful so far. Only two interviews and no success.
DH now has the possibility of getting a new job with a different company. This one would have better benefits, a potential for him to advance and about the same wage or close to it.
I am so excited for him and I hope that he gets the job. But, I am nervous about his changing jobs at this time in this economy. But work in his field is heading into a tail spin. The new job would be in a different field. So, I have some stress about what if he gets the job, quits his current position and then it doesn't work out and he is unemployed. But, he would be so much happier somewhere other than where he is working.

I am such a worry-wart! My sisters are supreme worriers, I am minor league. But it is within me and needs to be expressed - just not to DH! He gets upset when I worry about this stuff. So I post it here for my BYC friends. I hope you understand. With all the bad in the world at this time, this is so tiny.

This thread has not died, see!!! Just waiting for you! It sounds like you've pretty much thought this through, and realize that there are a lot of pluses with this new job opportunity for your husband. I'm guessing that the new job would not require an other relocation? I've been there, in a dead end job with no opportunity to move forward, lousy management, alzheimer's benefit package (promises made and forgotten), yearly wages being equivalent to a kick in the teeth, not even keeping up with inflation, and being put in a position every day where it's impossible to meet expectations in an ethical manner. Life is far too short to live that way! Yes, change is nerve wracking, perhaps even more so when you're the wife, looking at hubby's job change! So, put on your prayer shoes, turn this issue over to God, have faith that it will all work out, give that man a hug, and tell him to go for it! And... your final statement... regarding your worries paling in relation to all of the bad that is going on in the world now, and even concern about current economy... Your worries are still a worry and deep concern to you. Doesn't matter what else is going on, we're here for you. Economy will continue to have it's peaks and valleys, but... you need to move in the direction that will be of the most benefit for your family.

 

[wyoDreamer]

Thank you all for your support!

It is hard to understand unless you are in my shoes but I cannot express any doubts on this to DH. He holds onto every word I say and sometimes uses them as an excuse for not doing/getting something. I really do want him to go for the job, and I really do want him to get it. He needs to move on, but change is hard for him. Right now he is excited about the job possibility so I am trying to support him 100% here and now. I just needed a safe place to vent my stress. Thanks for being here for me.

 

[bruceha2000]

What they said

But don't fool yourself thinking men don't worry. We worry plenty but don't want the womenfolk to worry so we keep our traps shut. Maybe not to the point of changing jobs without telling the wife though!

The new job sounds better for him both financially and for his emotional health.

You can not tell the future. When we were looking to buy this house, I knew that one of my prior (and BEST EVER) managers lived in the same town so I looked her up on Whitepages and got an address. Looked that up on Google. WHAT??? House for sale?!!?? And it was JUST up the hill from this house, in fact on land that had been part of this property but split off by the prior owners.

Her husband worked at the EverReady plant in the next town north but a headhunter contacted him with a job in MA, more money etc. So they decided to take it since she worked from home and it didn't matter where they lived. Sadly the management at the new job was poor, he wasn't allowed to do what he was hired to do (like THINK and implement) because the immediate boss was a "my kingdom" control freak, sure didn't want anything made better if it wasn't his doing. So he quit that job and got another one in the same area. The kicker? Had he stayed here, he would have been unemployed in 2 years, the EverReady plant closed.

So worry some (because you will worry more if you don't) and things will work out

 

[lazy gardener]

Yeah, men do bear a heavy burden, especially if they are the main bread winner. And, I agree that the manager can make all the difference between a job being "good" and being a "night mare".

 

[Alice28]

How is everyone doing this week? Thanksgiving is almost here! Today my son helped me bake the pumpkin, we made sourdough english muffins and 2 loafs of pumpkin bread. Busy day. Oh, and some good news! Two weekends ago there was snow up in the mountains!!! I have proof!

First snow in over a year! We had a blast! Then this weekend, my husband had some work to do a few hours south of us, so we made a day trip.

We had a blast!

I hope you all have a great week. What is everyone's Thanksgiving plans? Big family dinner or just small meals? Any special food you are looking forward to most?

 

[wyoDreamer]

DH and I are going to my parents for T-day. I am making 4 pies and at least 2 kinds of dinner rolls. I would have offered to hold thanksgiving, but I have to work first thing Black Friday (5 am).
My sister and her family of 4 kids are going to be there also so it will be fun.

 

[Alice28]

DH and I are going to my parents for T-day.  I am making 4 pies and at least 2 kinds of dinner rolls.  I would have offered to hold thanksgiving, but I have to work first thing Black Friday (5 am).
My sister and her family of 4 kids are going to be there also so it will be fun.

Wow! That's a lot of pies and rolls! Yum!!! Sounds fun, except working friday

 

[wyoDreamer]

My sisters kids love pie! My niece requested pumpkin pie for her birthday treat - in July. So I want to make sure I have enough for everyone. We always have relatives that stop by so more is better.