THe i want to slap my stepdaughter upside her head rant by Conny

[Katy]

me&thegals :

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Who said that? AFAIK, people have only been saying that BOTH the adults and adult kids should be respectful.

I never saw anyone say that either. But I see a great lack of respect in all the people involved.

KS...I hope someday you're blessed with children so you will know first hand what some of us have tried to explain to you about the deep love you will feel for them. It has nothing to do with how you feel as a loving daughter to your father & mother. It is a feeling you have to experience to understand completely. It has nothing to do with letting them have their way on everything or getting everything they want. Giving your child unconditional love does not have anything to do with raising a spoiled or disrespectful child. It has everything to do with raising them to be productive caring people. I just know until you have children of your own a person really has no clue what it is like.....no matter how much you'd like to believe that you do.​

 

[ksacres]

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I have no idea how unconditional love equats to letting a child run roughshod over your spouse-which is the issue here (not whether or not KS has kids

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[Katy]

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I have no idea how unconditional love equats to letting a child run roughshod over your spouse-which is the issue here (not whether or not KS has kids

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KS...I don't believe any one has said that should be allowed....I certainly haven't. Have I not said the father is probably as much or more to blame in this mess? I think they all need some help if the father wants his daughter in his life and the OP wants her marriage to still be intact in the years to come. I can not imagine having a family situation like they are in. Sadly it's all to common anymore.

I'm sorry to see that you can't or won't see what some of us have tried to say. You are young and by the time you're my age I hope you can admit you might not have known quite as much as you thought you did at your age. I know I didn't know nearly as much as I thought I did. I'd love to be able to go back and relive my life with the knowledge I've got now. Unfortunately life does not work that way and we have to learn as we go along.

 

[horsejody]

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Exactly. Just because he loves his daughter doesn't mean he shouldn't step in and tell her that she is being disrespectful. She is a disrespectful and spoiled person. If her parents really want her to becaome a caring and productive person they would put an end to the disrespect she shows to her step mother.

I do have kids and I do understand the deep love I have for them. I love them so much that if they acted this way to my spouse, I would try to teach them that it was inappropriate.

 

[ksacres]

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Either you aren't saying what I think you are saying, or you are saying what I think you are saying, and I refuse to agree. Either way.

I think jody sums it up for me best:

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[Katy]

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Exactly. Just because he loves his daughter doesn't mean he shouldn't step in and tell her that she is being disrespectful. She is a disrespectful and spoiled person. If her parents really want her to becaome a caring and productive person they would put an end to the disrespect she shows to her step mother.

I do have kids and I do understand the deep love I have for them. I love them so much that if they acted this way to my spouse, I would try to teach them that it was inappropriate.

I have agreed from the beginning that the father should do something and is at fault too. But what about the disrespect from the step-mom...and I'm sorry but that's what it is. Two wrongs do not make a right. To bring a family issue like this to a public forum instead of working on it between the parties involved ....I just do not understand that. I'm all for venting your frustrations, but when you do it in public I think it shows a lack of respect for your whole family....step kids, step parents, birth children, everyone involved.

 

[ksacres]

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I agree with some of that. Two wrongs certainly don't make a right, but as I said before, I think Conny came here for some support b/c she obviously isn't getting any from her spouse.

Better for her to vent here than go off on SD. I doubt her SD is reading BYC. Of course, ya never know

 

[Katy]

And if she is reading it there's been even more damage done to a already damaged relationship.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

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I agree with some of that. Two wrongs certainly don't make a right, but as I said before, I think Conny came here for some support b/c she obviously isn't getting any from her spouse.

Better for her to vent here than go off on SD. I doubt her SD is reading BYC. Of course, ya never know

And again we don't know who the SD and DH are. And connie is a member on a board we frequent. We don't know them personally. So there's anonymity still.

 

[sundance]

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No freakin' way! Give them to someone who will appreciate them!! And thank you for them.

give them to the womens abuse center, they can probably use them and will greatly appreciated marrie