THe i want to slap my stepdaughter upside her head rant by Conny

[TexasVet]

Anonymous? I never heard of Connie before today, and I already know that...

... She lives in Youngstown Ohio
... Her kids are Taylor, Bashy, and Sammy-Lou
... In addition to chickens, she has a cat, dog, and turtle named Roscoe, Cindy, and Turtle
... Her husband is a Specialist First Class in the military and thinks he's a good shot
... She has an 18-year-old step daughter
... Her home phone number is unlisted
... SFC Malies has a MySpace page, but his account says he hasn't logged in 5/11/2007.
... She's a member of the Opa/Sam Fan Club

The Internet is not as anonymous as you might think!

 

[Chicks R Friends NOT Food]

My advice is to ignore her completely.
I agree that it's probably because of the divorce, and you happen to be the "lucky" target of her frustrations.
At 18 I don't think it's teenage problems, she's a big girl she should be able to control herself.
At some point you should ask her why she dislikes you/ treats you the way she does, and if its possible, then try to change her mind. Don't take anything negative too seriously so you don't look like the bad guy anymore by getting upset, and don't try to be Super Sweet because she'll see through it. b/c she knows she's being nasty and you're faking being nice.
If you show that you don't let her upset you, she won't be as satisfied trying to bother you.
If all the above fails, remember that your husband obviously loves you (he married you) and even if he chooses her side he still cares about you. Don't let her spoil your mariage because then she will win and probably do it to someone else.
Ask her if she would really want you to leave and have her dad be lonely. Odds are she wants him to be happy too she just can't get over that it won't be with her mom.

 

[ruth]

I haven't read through all 17 pages but I've read enough to get the general idea. It's a very similar "rant" to the one you posted a few months ago titled "I love watching a good train wreck". I don't know why this young woman would get the idea you don't like her.

https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=117067

That thread was all about how messed up this young girl is and apparently, by the title, you just "love it". My question then is still the same one - how much time has the father spent with his four children, by his first wife? They were very young when you married him but you seem to have resented any time he spent with them; any child support he paid for them; and the fact that he moved to Florida to be near them - the most nobel thing a father can do in my opinion.

Ask yourself how you would feel if you divorced and he remarried and "she" didn't want him to see your children or pay you any child support.

They are his kids, and he has minor children still (by first wife) and they should be included in all family vacations and holidays. Any money for "things" spent on your kids should also be spent on his. There should be NO "yours, mine" where joined families are concerned - they should be "our kids". They are the brothers and sisters to your children and you are causing a great divide that may never be healed.

My advice is to treat his kids with love and support, the same as yours, and include them in everything the family does. Stop making him choose and stop getting in a p'ing contest with the teenage daughter.

Do I have experience in this area - know what you're going through - you bet your sweet patooty I do - that's why I'm giving the advice I am.

No one is going to win this battle at the rate you're going.

 

[conny63malies]

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the myspace you looked at is the one he made for the army back in Florida.I wont post his other myspce he uses because he has minor daughter/s and nieces and nephews on there too.
And yes he is one heck of a shot. He still holds some kind of distance record for hitting a target of around a mile away.
We dont have a home phone anymore. It keeps the nuisance to a minimum

 

[Katy]

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Very well said!!

 

[conny63malies]

I will have this shut down now so we can have peace and quiet again. I really appreciate yall's input. I might call her in a quiet moment or write her.