Nicely said. And I too hope you are doing better!
First let me say I am sorry to hear of your accident Starling and really do hope your daughter is doing better.
Then at the risk of being cursed out - some clarification. You're new and an unknown to the auctions. You'd be surprised how many people flake out and don't come through on payments - one of the reasons there is short auctions and BIN's is because of getting stuck with eggs that were "sold" then weren't paid for. Payments are expected IMMEDIATELY following the end of an auction - not the next day and certainly not with PMs to make arrangements not responded to, especially with shipment stated to go out that next day. All I'm saying is this, you can't jump down peoples throats for making assumptions that you yourself contributed to. I screwed up my first auction too - but I was in close communication with the seller. Just have your funds in order PRIOR to bidding, communicate and everything will go smoothly. Hope the next ones go better for you - and no more bumper car incidents!
Best!