Things you wish you could say

[docteurshepherd]

For anyone that cares, I will be stepping away from BYC for awhile. I feel like it has turned into a website I no longer want to be a part of, for political and personal reasons. Thanks for letting me vent in here!

Agreed I'm going to step away too if things don't change and I know there's more that are probably going to

 

[JacinLarkwell]

If a thread doesnt apply to you or you dont agree with it, LEAVE IT ALONE AND DON'T CLICK. For crying out loud, why do people have to complain about things that they don't agree with that aren't hurting them?

 

[Sapphire Sebright]

For anyone that cares, I will be stepping away from BYC for awhile. I feel like it has turned into a website I no longer want to be a part of, for political and personal reasons. Thanks for letting me vent in here!

We'll miss you. Take as much time as you need, and I hope that you feel better soon. I hope that we can talk again someday.

 

[CarpCharacin]

I'm easily irritated, and people who aren't particularly bright tend to irritate me, even though they obviously didn't choose to be that way. I hate how major government decisions with detrimental effects have been made seemingly to placate an uninformed majority, who don't seem able enough to make informed decisions regarding nuanced scientific issues. It's also a waste of resources to force academics upon individuals who are unlikely to get much out of it, and it's ironic how those individuals get the most academic resources while those who have considerable potential are frequently neglected. This will probably sound supercilious to some, but for what it's worth I often feel like I'm no better than the people who irritate me, which makes me dislike myself.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Here's something I've often wished I could say: "a true apology begins with 'I'm sorry *I*'," not 'I'm sorry YOU.'." This is a pet peeve of mine.

As in, "I'm sorry *I*... was rude/ hurt your feelings/ was insensitive/ was a jerk/ was thoughtless/ stepped on your toes," etc.

NOT: "I'm sorry YOU ... misunderstood/ took it the wrong way/ are overly sensitive/ can't take a joke/ are such a jerk/ got in my way," etc., etc.

You can not be sorry for another person's actions, only for your own. "I'm sorry YOU" is not an apology. It is a blame game disguised as an apology. It is passive-aggressive. Or worse. The person to whom this fake apology is rendered may THINK s/he heard an apology, but walks away wondering why s/he doesn't FEEL like s/he got one, and instead feels a vague sense of resentment. Should s/he respond, "I forgive you"? Absolutely not! Forgiveness was not sought. One must own one's responsibility for a transgression before reconciliation can take place.

Thank you. I feel better now.

 

[JacinLarkwell]

I don't get why only certain threads are allowed anymore. It seems like only half get to stay even with complaints, and the other half are closed whenever someone complains against it.

Honestly, I'm really quite disappointed considering I've seen worse ones stay and others close when they weren't that bad.

 

[electrycmonk]

Here's something I've often wished I could say: "a true apology begins with 'I'm sorry *I*'," not 'I'm sorry YOU.'." This is a pet peeve of mine.

As in, "I'm sorry *I*... was rude/ hurt your feelings/ was insensitive/ was a jerk/ was thoughtless/ stepped on your toes," etc.

NOT: "I'm sorry YOU ... misunderstood/ took it the wrong way/ are overly sensitive/ can't take a joke/ are such a jerk/ got in my way," etc., etc.

You can not be sorry for another person's actions, only for your own. "I'm sorry YOU" is not an apology. It is a blame game disguised as an apology. It is passive-aggressive. Or worse. The person to whom this fake apology is rendered may THINK s/he heard an apology, but walks away wondering why s/he doesn't FEEL like s/he got one, and instead feels a vague sense of resentment. Should s/he respond, "I forgive you"? Absolutely not! Forgiveness was not sought. One must own one's responsibility for a transgression before reconciliation can take place.

Thank you. I feel better now.

I vacillated on the “I” versus the “heart” for the obvious relevance here-in-use. This wisdom is just that. Wisdom.

 

[docteurshepherd]

I don't get why only certain threads are allowed anymore. It seems like only half get to stay even with complaints, and the other half are closed whenever someone complains against it.

Honestly, I'm really quite disappointed considering I've seen worse ones stay and others close when they weren't that bad.

Agreed.

 

[Ted_Harrell]

No offence to Walmart but it doesn't matter what side I park on, the only two registers open are on the other side of the store, conspiracy? Maybe?

 

[Ted_Harrell]

Yeah thanks to COVID, i bought a prom dress for my daughter and she never got a chance to wear it. I know it's a waste of time to complain but I just felt like getting it off of my chest. Thanks everybody for listening...