Think our oldest is drinking cough syrup...

[WalkingWolf]

OP I hope you are right and she is not. But you may need to try a different strategy and not talk about it on the computer. Children are much more computer savvy than we are. If she has access to your computer or even knows you have a BYC account, she has read this thread. Sorry to tell you but it is part of the sickness they will do some very elaborate things to protect their habit.

 

[redhen]

Yay!! So far so good!

 

[JLMom]

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This is a very good point, walking wolf. I would also be careful if the friend drinks the food coloring. My son has a sensativity to food coloring, and if he drank as much as your husband put in that bottle it would be bad.

 

[buck-wild-chick]

Would the OP be liable for someone else's child drinking cough medicine?

 

[redhen]

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Sadly..maybe yes, anything that happens at your house with minors makes you liable... Scary..but..

 

[chicks4kids]

OK, I gotta step in here on this one...As far as the red dye goes, I know that my childs "besty" can have red dye. I know this. This isn't even a question, and I'm not even going to consider the "what ifs".

If I find out that my daughters best friend is the one abusing the OTC then by goodness the parent OUGHT to to THANKFUL that I let him know--I say "him" because it is her father who has custody and not the mother. The mother is the every other weekend parent and has left her at our house for days before calling.

Where along the lines did it become someone else's "responsibility" or "fault" something occurred? Seriously. Then stop sending your kids to other peoples' houses because it's convenient!!!!!! Oh, that just aggravated me to no end. If a child is at my house and falls off a swing, then that is a learning experience....when did everyone become so delicate and fragile ??

I'm not trying to thread-jack my own thread, but I have a serious problem with threatening of suing people. We have a pool, a trampoline, and a huge playground area with equip. for our kids....the nieghbor kids always want to go swimming, always want to be on our equip. and tramp. And I have to be the mean one and say no....for liability. Forget home owners insurance...that doesn't mean squat. We do let the friends play however on all of the equip. except the pool. I offered to let the neighbor kids come over and swim after weeks of them asking. I called the mother, told her that if she wanted to come and supervise her 4 kids while they were here swimming, that would be great and that they could come swim..........................................................................................................................................she never came over and let them swim.............to me, my point was made.

Anyway back on subject, my daughter didn't touch the Nyquil again tonight!!

Now I'm really starting to think that it's one of her friends.

Oh, BTW, even though we have 2 computers here, I know she has NOT been on the computer to see this. I know this has raised some concerns as well. I am a stay at home mom and my husband is home on Tues. Thurs. Sat. and Sun. So we know when she is online and what she is doing. There is no way for her to see this. However, the friend with the blackberry also has internet on her phone and I've caught them in my daughters room online on the stinkin' phone!!!!

But, still doin' the chicken dance here!!

May even give a little

!!

 

[redhen]

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I hear ya! Its horrible how it is today! all the crazy laws and sue crazy people! UGH! Makes me nuts too! And...IMO..i think the parent should be thankful if you find out if their kid is taking the syrup..i'd want to know!!! Just keep doing what your doing...

 

[:D chicken]

Honestly IMO to me my everything is my cell phone i am not allowed to have facebook or mysace or twitter or gmail which for those of you, absolutely no offense intended, who dont know what those are they are some of the most addictive web sites on the planet no drugs needed i know some people who are on facebook 8 hours a day, and btw if this hasnt been answered a blackberry is a personal assistant in a portable phone that is quite useful often it has mapping capabilities as well as internet and texting. Texting tho can be an effective way to stop bad things as well as start i got an email and have recieved forwarded texts about crystal meth being sold on playgrounds as rock candy and kids are abusing drugs that they dont even know are drugs! that scares me and i know i am more on my toes because of it

Im 2 years older than the girl in question but being a girls who prides her academic accomplishments i will never do drugs or abuse alchohol i will wait until i am 21 and honestly even then... ech i hate the smell of beer or wine my dad diluted about a tablespoon once and let us try it i spit it out and started wiping my tongue... blech icky stuff

at middle school or junior high kids sell drugs buy drugs use drugs but you can avoid it its not hard and letting your kids have a facebook could be a good idea if you both get a page you can see what she does which is faster than waiting for food dye these days the internet is an open diary and having one means you dont care if anyone reads it even your parents this girls friend who was on her phones internet likely posts updates of any drugs she is taking or anything she does it might not be a bad idea to get one and

hopefully by hearing what an actual teen has to say might help

as far as therapy or talking she may just clam up or give u half truth answers, food dye i know would be incredibly embarrassing and i would hate that but lacing nyquil with vomit inducing medication is like giving her the ok to abuse medicine and if they think you will ground them if they admit they were using it they will never tell you anything

good luck from : D (happy emoticon) Chicken

Edit to remove personal information for internet safety.

 

[Fudgie]

I am proud of the OP, I agree that if you have asked about other things and lying is the course, you HAVE to do something to know without a shadow of a doubt. I don't believe in doing something HARMFUL to them. I also believe if the friend is abusing the niquil, the parents have no recourse stating that you are harming their daughter. YOU did not ask her to sneak into your medicine cabinet and steal your medicines. You KNEW someone was and you wanted to find out who was doing it thinking all the time it was your own daughter. if her daugher sneaks it WELL then whoo is red faced!

My opinion here is I have a 13 and 15 year old and this sort of thing is a learning experince for me as well. We all need to know what is happening with their peers and how to handle it. I took the OP as being at her wits end and needing any advice so they can determine the best course of action. How did it go with the friend sleepover?

 

[chicks4kids]

The friend sleepover won't be until the end of the week. Friday. The friend was at her mom's over the weekend.