? to those who have had a divorce... Help my husband's boss

[DuckLady]

I would be more worried about me and my children. Credit can be rebuilt, but lives cannot be replaced.
I ran from such a situation (no kids, though) and it took 7 years to rebuild my credit. And it was 7 years well spent.

 

[Ellie_NY_chick]

It's amazing to me how laws DON'T protect women and children in this situation in some states. We all assume it does and it's just not the case.

This woman must get a good lawyer. No, she must get a GREAT lawyer. She needs to contact her local NOW chapter and have them recommend one for her.

If she can afford the house on her own, she needs to have the husband removed. To do this, she has to file for divorce, and have the judge attach a restraining order to this. A marshall or the sheriff escorts the husband to the house, stands there while he packs his personal belongings, and escorts him out. Everything else is hammered out in court.

If she can't afford the house, she needs to get a lease on a place she can afford, take the day off from work, get all the help she can, and move every single thing she can out of that house while he's at work. When he gets home she hands him the divorce papers and drive away. Or have him served at work AFTER she leaves the house.

Obviously the children should not be there when this happens.

If he is a psycho she must understand that a piece of paper will not stop a bullet. If this is the case then she'll have to sacrifice her possessions in order to save herself and her children and get the hell out of there.

Good luck to her. Too bad people like this (men and women alike) don't come with warning labels.

 

[Raz'sRoost]

Get the hell outta there and worry about the other stuff later!!!!!

 

[The Poultry Peanut]

I agree she needs to get out as fast as possable but if she is worried about her credit send her to the website in my sig; Dave will help her with the money aspect.

 

[astylishgirl]

She needs to be smart. Getting a GOOD lawyer is the first defense. A good lawyer can help negotiate ALL of this. Find out who the best lawyers in your town are. My divorce lawyer made our life today possible.

It is important to leave, but later on if her financial security is impaired... it will make a difference to her and her children's welfare. He should leave the house... not her. She will have much more control that way.

I don't know how violent this guy is. If he is going to kill them or beat her... it is over my level of experience.

 

[Bluemoon420]

Post number 8 in this thread, I linked her a web site that deals directly with Ohio's laws on domestic violence, and many numbers where they can contact lawyers, shelters, etc.
Ohio actually has many laws pertaining to domestic violence, and the law will be on her side.

This woman just needs some support, and she'll get it if she reaches out.

Just be persistant, and patience is a virtue. If you need any advice Sophie, please feel free to PM me.


Bluemoon

 

[monathequeen]

Isn't this supposed to be a Backyard Chicken Forum???? Not a Personal Post Forum? Correct me if I'am wrong. "Confused in Kansas"

 

[Bluemoon420]

Quote:
This is the random ramblings section. You're allowed to post non chicken related things here.

 

[SophieLain127]

Thanks everyone I will pass the information on to her. I know the credit thing seems stupid be she is afraid if her credit gets any worse she will not be allowed to rent or buy a place and will not have a safe place for her kids. Apparently half the people in her cul-de-sac have restraining order against her family (it's meant for her husband but they included the whole family kids and all) so I though she should let her lawyer know and he/she could contact the neighbors to get statements about her husband so they could be put into court evidence.


Thanks again I will let her know.

 

[turney31]

leaving is the most dangerous time.