Today is gonna be a hard one.

[Hens_And_Chicks]

Wow. Nothing like adding insult to injury. That's weird he would bother remembering AND calling you today.

You've really been kicked to the curb - a girlfriend and 4 kids. I wouldn't want him back. Big hugs to you whereever you are and just know, no matter how hard it is today, you are stronger than you don't even realize you are.

You are better, stronger, more beautiful and you don't need him him flubbing up your life.

 

[lurky]

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Funny you say that. Alot of people have been asking when we're gonna get back together. He has moved 3 hours away to be closer to his girlfriend. I won't move and he wants his girlfriend. I wish things had ended up differently. I planned on being with him for the rest of my life. Instead I got thrown back into the dating world and am left to tend our 4 kids alone. It'll be ok, I just need to get through today.

Thats terrible. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I have a few customers who went through the same thing. I felt so bad for them. Then, one day, they found the person they ended up happier with than they ever imagined possible. I hope that you feel that way someday too........but for now.......

 

[conny63malies]

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Funny you say that. Alot of people have been asking when we're gonna get back together. He has moved 3 hours away to be closer to his girlfriend. I won't move and he wants his girlfriend. I wish things had ended up differently. I planned on being with him for the rest of my life. Instead I got thrown back into the dating world and am left to tend our 4 kids alone. It'll be ok, I just need to get through today.

BUT he called you today.....there are feelings there...how long have you been married?...maybe you have hit a "slump" in the marriage and the GF gives him some excitement and he will tire of her soon...

(my best friend is a guy...he was married for 7 years and he got bored..he is tired of the routine... left the wife for the lil toy on the side... wife will no longer take him back...he cries all the time it was the worst mistake he ever made.)

all because men think with the wrong body part.

 

[Bammony]

I'm trying really hard to get past what he's done. We never fought when we were together, and we still don't fight now. Today is just bringing back alot of memories. I usually don't care about us splitting up. I just need to crawl back into bed and cry for a lil while. Tomorrow will be much better.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

I am so sorry! Here's to him:

You hang here with us and the chickens.

BTW It was recently proven that when men smell "essence" or woman (shall we say) even when they don't realize it they lose IQ points!! Seriously!!

 

[maplesky7]

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Without knowing the situation completely, it also is a form of abuse. When the person who has cast you aside and treats you poorly ESPECIALLY for a number of years, as in this case and then keeps dangleing you by a string. It's a form of control. It's a lack of respect and love abandon to keep drawing one in with a false sense of hope only to break their heart repeatedly.

As my Pastor says to me, "Guard your heart."


hugs to you Bammy,
gretch

 

[Sunny the Hippie Chick]

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Funny you say that. Alot of people have been asking when we're gonna get back together. He has moved 3 hours away to be closer to his girlfriend. I won't move and he wants his girlfriend. I wish things had ended up differently. I planned on being with him for the rest of my life. Instead I got thrown back into the dating world and am left to tend our 4 kids alone. It'll be ok, I just need to get through today.

BUT he called you today.....there are feelings there...how long have you been married?...maybe you have hit a "slump" in the marriage and the GF gives him some excitement and he will tire of her soon...

(my best friend is a guy...he was married for 7 years and he got bored..he is tired of the routine... left the wife for the lil toy on the side... wife will no longer take him back...he cries all the time it was the worst mistake he ever made.)

First off I give you lots of hugs..

I know how you feel.. I have been there.. More than once.. He also called to check up on me all the time too..And yes that does make it harder. I do believe there is still feelings there, if he called to make sure you are ok..

Some times I think guys get bored to easily with the married life.. And they long for the single life again.. We had a missunderstanding.. Then his mom is a controlling person.. And she made him file for divorce.. We have 2 kids. . After almost $15,000 in legal fees.. Not even 2 months after it was final he came crawling back. A few months later we were remarried.. Although it has been hard.. And trust has been a hard issue, we try hard to make it work.. Guys some times have a hard time talking about their feelings.. And 2 years after we were remarried.. The guilt of what he put me through still ate at him.. So he tried to get me to leave him by cheating on me. Instead of talking with me first. And always saying that I desearved some one better.. That lasted 2 months.. Well he finally realized that it was hurting me even more.. And I didnt want him gone. It took some long talking and opening up to me.. But we have been doing fine for 3 years now.. Every once in awhile out of the blue.. He will say he is sorry for what he did in the past.. And he will say it was the dumbest thing he has ever done.. I think he still feels bad. I try not to remember, and I never bring it up..

So hope for the best.. What ever you may want that to be.. He may come crawling back soon.. He may actually want you more than the girlfriend.. But he may feel stuck.. He may think that you wont want him cause of what he did to you.. He may be afraid to come back to you.. Thinking you will constantly degrade him for what he did.. These are some feelings that my husband confessed to..

Then again.. He may not come back.. But before you file for that divorce.. I think you both need to sit down and have a serious talk.. That would have saved us alot of crying and heartache.. Some times a guy needs to be reminded on how much they actually love you.. Remind him that you know he still has some feelings for you, if he will check up on you to see if you are alright.

Hope this wasnt stealing your thread.. I wish you the best.. And you should treat you self to some thing nice to get you through the day..

And you need more hugs...

And dont we all feel like

guys some times..

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Now that man is a real peice of...... And don't even get me started on the gf. I'm pretty sure all the words I have for those two would just get censored.

 

[B. Saffles Farms]

You will make it thru the day, and it gets easier with time. Sorry you are having to go thru this.
Like always, gretch has a lot of wisdom in what she just wrote.

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. It makes me VERY angry to hear of people (men or women) acting so immaturely. What he has done to you and your children is a terrible thing. Its only natural that you as a human being would feel this way about him. Obviously you loved him very much and it seems as if he took that for granted!

Its hard to move on, but it is true there are better guys out there. You'll find mr. right when you are not expecting it. And no body says you have to forgive anybody. Sometimes its better worth it to work on forgetting rather than forgiving. Some people just aren't worth your time! I always have a hard time believing that a person who does something like this won't ever do it again!

Just ETA that I send you lots of hugs! You WILL get through today and there are better days around the corner.