trauma and divorce

[cassie]

Contact the Salvation Army. They may be able to help you or send you to someone who can.

 

[speckledhen]

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[redhen]

I'm so sorry..

THis is the Nathan that has been in jail before and then in the hospital for mental problems, correct?
Didnt he spray paint and destroy another apartment you all had before??
Quinn... i'd say its time... he sounds dangerous..
And WHY do they keep letting him out of the hospital if she is so violent??

 

[RHRanch]

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I'll tell you why, there is no room/money to keep people in mental facilities and also there is the issue of voluntary/involuntary commitment. Today, some of the best mental care you can get is in prison, unfortunately.

 

[clucksbc]

Oh my!!!!!!!
big big hug....
I hope you have found some place safe and are begining to feel better...
I know years ago I had to go to a womans shelter...and it actually was a very good experience..
really felt like shelter in a storm...
there is no doubt you have been through a lot...of sorrow...
one never know..why...but I hope you are able to gain and insight
growth and heart felt empathy you never would have known...
stay stronge..
you sound brave
and are DEFInatELY doing THE RIGHT THING...
TAKE CARE

 

[zzGypsy]

you're doing the right thing, you need to protect yourself.

did you go to the grand jury? their job is to determine if there's enough reason to bind him over for trial... bacically to see if the facts to be presented justify the charge he's been arrested for.

just one more thought that will maybe help...
you've got a long list of losses... we all have losses and it's not easy, especially when one thinks of them as the defining moments in your life. it may help you to think of the good things, not the loss. each of those you loved and lost brought you joy, were a pleasure in your life, made your life richer in some way. if you spend your limited energy thinking of the good things you had with them, instead of the loss of them, you will lift yourself up more, shift some of the sense of sadness to a sense of gratitude.

there are some folks who've never has as many things to lose as you have... not as much love as you've had...
I know this doesn't make the loss less troubling, however, it wasn't only loss, but love, that you had.

If we focus only on the loss, that can be debilitating. if we focus on the love, our experience of life, even after loss, can be much lighter. it gives us something to work towards, to hang on to, a reason to put one foot in front of the other, even when things are hard.

maybe it would help to have a list of when those important to you came into your life, not when they left.

I know you've got a lot on your plate, choose where to put your limited energy, choose where to focus your attention, it will help.
been there, and sending you a big

 

[Kevin565]

 

[Starlight 451]

I am very, very sorry to hear about your situation and that your ex went so overboard! I just read some more of your posts, about how he is bi polar. that must have been a hard life for you. do stay strong! I am sure your experiences have made you stronger. I am glad you took the step of getting a divorce, and wish you luck for finding help and somewhere safe to stay. your story is sad, and I really hope that soon, there will be the light at the end of the tunnel for you.

 

[EweSheep]

I hope you are pro-active. Let us know how you are doing.

 

[justbugged]

Oh Baby Girl! I wish there was away to make things better for you. There will always be people here, who will love and support you.