venting (miscarriage mentioned)

[redhen]

I think you are perfectly normal. When i had mine, i was a bit "bummed out", but i think it was really more stress... for a few days.
But really, i didnt dwell on it. I'm not that type of person.. what happens happens and you have to move on in life or be miserable/sad all the time.
Honestly, i couldnt mourn something i never even had... but thats just me.
Now when i lost my dog... my god, it literally killed me for a long while and i STILL mourn my Duke. But he was something i loved and held and something that was a daily part of my life.
So yeah... i get what you mean.
You'll be okay...

About the procedure, i didnt have to have one. so i cant speak on that.

 

[krcote]

I've had 2 miscarriages, and I felt very differently for each for some reason. That was the weird thing for me. They were very close together, but felt worlds apart. I still have no idea why I felt so differently even to this day. Like every single other person has said, you are very normal. Looking back on both of them, I feel very little now interestingly enough. I actually enjoyed your refreshing outlook. I didn't elect to have a D&C, I would nervous as well. I think fear of the unknown is run of the mill

 

[ChobeeChickenMommy]

Hugs going out to you! Don't feel bad about the way you are coping & dealing w/ everything. I personally miscarried mine & my DH's twins a few years back & had to have a D & C due to only miscarrying 1 of them... My oldest son was around maybe 15-16 months old at the time & he was my rock for staying strong! IMO as long as you have your baby girl around you, you will have a reason to stay strong. Good luck to you & take care! (If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me...)

 

[rubyrogue]

I miscarried at 15 weeks. I had only known I was pregnant for about a week and a half. I felt guilty for not knowing ( I was on the pill) as I had been drinking. When I started cramping I was like what the heck. Then the bleeding...I ended up in the ER as I am anemic. They just check me to make sure I was "passing" everything. TMI but the doctor did help with a bit of it. I knew what was going on but was not upset. I only felt the guilt. The doctors and nurses kept asking me if I was okay and it was more upsetting to me that they continued asking. Once in a blue moon I will think what if....what if I had had that baby he/she would be almost 8. But I still only feel the guilt even though the doctors said it was not the drinking that caused it. I feel bad that it happened but, I figure if it had been meant to be, it would be. Stay strong, don't push your feelings away if they do well up inside. As far as the stories online, it is like working in retail.... you can have hundreds of happy customers and never hear a word, but get one unhappy customer and everyone knows about it. There are many of us who have the same feelings as you and do not feel the need to write about it, but there are those that have had bad experiences and want the world to know.

HEARTS

 

[cassidy22]

Thanks for your responses everyone! THe pregnancy hormones did not help my anxiety over the D&C.

It happened last Thursday and everything went fine, I feel SOOOO much better now that my hormones are normal again. Food tastes good again, and I have the energy to play with my daughter again.

I remember telling the anesthesiologist that I was irrationally scared before the procedure. My doc knows I am a farmer AND an engineer, so you don't get much more pragmatic than that. She said I was handling it well. When the nurse put in the IV, I started to cry a little, but that's because I have a history of having seizures with needles, and that's what scared me the most - but no seizure. The nurse even told me that she wanted me to know that she was sad for me, but that her job was to take care of me, so she couldn't cry with me, she just wanted me to know she wasn't cold hearted. It was really the whole procedure that was scary. Now that it is done, I am glad I did it, if this happens again, I would do it again. It gave me closure and the ability to move on, and now my husband and I can start trying again once my cycle kicks back in.

BUt anyhow, thanks to everyone for your thoughts and feedback. I really appreciate it!


(and now I have the energy to start working on Halloween costumes! So all is well in the world again!)

 

[sourland]

Thanks for the good update. And don't worry about the 'trying' part. Just enjoy one another and things will follow the natural course.