Thank you all for your feedback on this serious issue.
For today I am going to give Julie 1/2 of a benedryl. I know I can do this because it's what the vet recommended in WI. to get her here to our home in AR. 12 hour drive for a cat that can't stand travelling.
Right now we are having an addition built and my day is full but I have to get groceries at some point. I will get a new cat food and see if it helps.
I think I will try a different vet but I hope it's not going to be another huge bill. I personally think it's a mental thing and can't afford to keep spending money on her.
I will try anything that's within reason but I do remind myself that if we hadn't taken her 13 years ago, she likely would have been euthanized.
DH is not pressuring me here.......it's just that he knows I am having difficulty breathing since she started this again, and his concern is for my health.
Thanks to all so much,
Mary