Quote: Ok, let me first say that I can not always get my point across correctly or fully when not just talking to someone face to face. When I say there always has to be a loser I do not mean that in a bad way as in "you're a loser" I mean that in sports there is a team that won and a team that did not and that is just how it is. When I said I only told most of the kids they did good, I did not finnish what I ment to put and that is I was only able to talk to a few of the kids because all the other families were leaving as soon as thier kids were done. No one elts stayed to support the other children (other than who they came with). And at class twice every week, only about 6 parrents are in the class while there are at least 15 kids. And what do these parrents do while their kids are training??? They are eather outside talking to eachother or sitting on their phones and ipads, not even paying attention to what their kids are doing. I am at every practice and I turn my phone off for the whole hour, I make sure I am watching my DD so that when she looks at me to see if I think she is doing good she has my attention right away, or I can tell her that part of her move was wrong so that she gets it right for when it comes time to test for her next belt she gets it because she knows all the moves and how to do them right. Some of the parrents even drop their kids off and leave I don't get it.
I do belive that all children desurve praise and support in what ever they chose to do and what ever place they come in, but trophies and medals are for the team or the ones that came out on top. But it does not mean that you are no good it just means that if you want that award you do need to work harder for it.
As far as sportsmanship, that is one of the big things that I do teach my children. Weather you win or lose, you walk away with your head up and be supportive of those who won or lost.
Now I am a competitive person, but when it comes to my children in sports I want them to understand that a lot of adults these days are competitive in a bad way. Cheering is great, but booing is not ok (unless it is a refs bad call lol) Parrents such as the ones in Itsren's story just make me sick!
But also with Itsren's story, what those children did at the end, to let her boy take his shot, is just one of the ways to act that children should be tought. You are on a team, that means you help each other because you are on the same side and are going for the same win. What those children did is awsome and exactly what I would expect from my children, give everyone a shot. It makes you a stronger person and makes your team stronger!
I feel that children should learn that you have to work hard to get awards and I agree that younger people in the work force these days do feel they are intitled. Also I agree that these kids are going to have a shock when they are in the real world and they do not just get handed what ever they want because others got it. That is one reason why I do not like the birthday card rules that the schools have, if you are going to hand out invites to your birthday you have to invite the whole class! The hell if I do...., "Well we don't want anyone to feel left out", If you insist that we invite the whold dang class then I guess you are the ones paying for the party! What happens when these kids that all get to go to everyones partys in elementary school get to middle and high school and they do not get invited to ALL the partys? Or what about those two girls in my DD's class that are little disrespectful bullying turds that will not leave my DD alone (this is real but my kids have been taught to not mind what bullies say and how to handle the situations) You really think my kid wants them at her party or you think I will put up with that child or children or that the parents of these children are people whom I want around my family?????
I refuse to go by that rule, I have my children give out their invites durring class if they want, or they have the option to do it at resess also.
I hope that my opinions do not change your minds about me in a negitive way, and I hope I did not upset anyone with my opinion on this subject.