What did you all do about your dissaproving DH?

[hikerchick]

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I think it is sad that you had to give up your dream for a man who does not seem to mind asking you to do so, regardless of how much joy it may have brought you. No marriage is worth giving up your dreams, IMHO.

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

Mine is!!! OMGosh my dh is so awesome!!

My DH is a dream and just because he can't afford for me to go out and create a hundred horse ranch and that we agreed on the number that we can both can handle doesn't mean he doesn't care about my dream at all. We made our decision based on what was best for the both of us! Not just one of us. eta: Horses seriously sress my Dh out because of the expense and the huge amount of time each horses needs daily - not because he just hates horses - after I re-read I felt it implied that just because he is no cowboy that that is the sole reason he isn't into them - he has legit concerns - and we could afford one or two more I am sure but I don't push it because I want to show him I respect the way he feels too*

I don't let my DH be my 'head' because that is what how he says it goes. He has never once in his life said I had to do what he said or else...I do it because I respect God and his word and - has nothing to do with him

Anywho - I gave my opinion - I hope the OP has great luck with her marriage!!!!

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

just because he can't afford

Actually this is the crux of the whole matter right here. If it's your dream, then you should be the one paying for it. And that goes for everyone, male and female, involved in a relationship. You pay for your own dreams. That's part of what makes them yours. Otherwise, the person paying tends to feel entitled to make the decisions about how much/many, where, and even IF the dream gets to come to fruition. That person tends to get to be the adult in the relationship and the other person tends to get treated like the child who needs "permission" to do stuff.

JMO


Rusty​

 

[hikerchick]

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Actually this is the crux of the whole matter right here. If it's your dream, then you should be the one paying for it. And that goes for everyone, male and female, involved in a relationship. You pay for your own dreams. That's part of what makes them yours. Otherwise, the person paying tends to feel entitled to make the decisions about how much/many, where, and even IF the dream gets to come to fruition. That person tends to get to be the adult in the relationship and the other person tends to get treated like the child who needs "permission" to do stuff.

JMO


Rusty

I agree 100%, I assume all adults pay their own way. I wouldnt' have it any other way; financial dependence leads to control. Everyone has to make their own money.

 

[Rebekah]

by request, Justin's favorite beer-drinking gnome in our garden:

 

[Ladyhawke1]

No god I know would dare put a man in charge of my life. He would not be head of my house nor would I have to walk ten steps behind him.

I am made in god’s image and SHE would'nt allow it!

Remember those pesky Chinese that say that women hold up half the sky. Duh!

 

[hikerchick]

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You go girl!

 

[Rillion]

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Actually this is the crux of the whole matter right here. If it's your dream, then you should be the one paying for it. And that goes for everyone, male and female, involved in a relationship. You pay for your own dreams. That's part of what makes them yours. Otherwise, the person paying tends to feel entitled to make the decisions about how much/many, where, and even IF the dream gets to come to fruition. That person tends to get to be the adult in the relationship and the other person tends to get treated like the child who needs "permission" to do stuff.

Ha, you've just summed up my philosophy regarding both marriage and government at the same time.

 

[Rillion]

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While I appreciate this sentiment, I think that if this thread turns into a theological discussion it'll be pretty much doomed.

 

[shawnkfl]

you people with spouses that do not want anything to do with chickens have it made! think about it a minute. you can add one or two to your flock gradually and they'll never know! you can just say "that one"? she's been in there forever!