What do you prefer - Taken or livin' the single life?

[dave3877]

well i could take it either way. im currently dating someone weve been casual more than anything and it works out great i dont crowd her life and she doesnt crowd mine we usually talk everyday bt we only meet up on weekends vacations etc.sh e and i both are low maintinence so yeah. but yeah i liked being single too. its nice to do as i please

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

I have been single for so long I can not imagine what it would be like to share my life with someone. I can come and go as I please, do not have to offer an explination for coming home whenever I want, have no one to complain about my hunting habbits (I DO NOT have time to date during deer season (fall/winter), trapping season (winter), or turkey season (spring). Single life definately has it's pluses. BUT, I would like to have a wedding. I've always wanted to be a bride. That kinda conflicts with the single life, huh? Maybe I could have my "big day" and we could live in seperate houses- you know, be more like friends!?!

 

[Rillion]

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Obviously your friends deal with your flaws by telling you when you're being a butthead, and presumably you do the same thing. What exactly is the big mystery about having a very close friend that you're attracted to and who lives with you?

 

[hikerchick]

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Obviously your friends deal with your flaws by telling you when you're being a butthead, and presumably you do the same thing. What exactly is the big mystery about having a very close friend that you're attracted to and who lives with you?

That's exactly it- my friends don't live with me., They take their flaws and go home and I don't have to learn to live with them. All I hear married people saying is that you have to learn to deal with other people's flaws, no one is perfect, marriage is work, etc. Well, why do it then? That is what I am trying to figure out. What do they get out of it?

 

[Rillion]

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Do your friends complain a lot? Do they show up late when you're going out? Do they make stupid jokes? Are they anything other than perfect? You don't have to live with a person to have to put up with their flaws if you want to be around them. Friends have flaws. Being friends with people is work. As far as I'm concerned, there's no real difference. A spouse is just a good friend that you live with. In exchange for putting up with their nonsense, they put up with yours. That's what you get out of it. If you don't want that, fine....but it's not like it's a mystery why other people would.

 

[Boyd]

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Obviously your friends deal with your flaws by telling you when you're being a butthead, and presumably you do the same thing. What exactly is the big mystery about having a very close friend that you're attracted to and who lives with you?

That's exactly it- my friends don't live with me., They take their flaws and go home and I don't have to learn to live with them. All I hear married people saying is that you have to learn to deal with other people's flaws, no one is perfect, marriage is work, etc. Well, why do it then? That is what I am trying to figure out. What do they get out of it?

deep emotional peace and contentment. Being satisfied and single is the same as being satisfied and being taken.

 

[debilorrah]

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That's exactly it- my friends don't live with me., They take their flaws and go home and I don't have to learn to live with them. All I hear married people saying is that you have to learn to deal with other people's flaws, no one is perfect, marriage is work, etc. Well, why do it then? That is what I am trying to figure out. What do they get out of it?

deep emotional peace and contentment. Being satisfied and single is the same as being satisfied and being taken.

Very well said Boyd!!!!

 

[Rillion]

In order to prevent this thread from being closed/deleted, let's stick to the topic at hand. It's possible to say whether you like X or Y without slamming people who prefer the other.

 

[lone cedar farm]

Sounds like BYC might need a singles thread on here, you guys & gals already have one thing in common....Chickens.

being single or being taken both have their good & bad days. bottom line is you have to be happy being yourself first, no one can do that for you.

 

[debilorrah]

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Now aint that just the truth right there!! And I for one and very happy right here where I am - next to Ken.