What do you prefer - Taken or livin' the single life?

[Terri]

i have been divorced for over 20 years, but have had my best boyfriend for 16, which by the way he hates it when i call him that.
I just can't see getting married again. But i can't see him devorcing me cause I won't marry him, not after 16 years.

 

[debilorrah]

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Honey you are married. Paper or not.

 

[Terri]

Deb, that's what he says. But I can't just introduce him as my husband.

 

[Terri]

and he doesn't like my partner either.

 

[kodiakchicken]

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Call him your "man friend".

 

[kodiakchicken]

I've been married for 13 years next month. It was good to start with and we have a beautiful 9 year old daughter, but I was too young when we got married (24). I am not the same person I was. I've since figured out who I am and the life I want and it doesn't always mesh with being married. My husband is 10 years older and was already settled in his personality, therefore we haven't "grown" together.

I like being with someone, but think anymore that if I can't have the passion and partnership I want, I'd rather be single than feel like I'm just living with a roommate.

But those of you that said you have to be happy with yourself first, before being happy with anyone else are exactly right. I also used to not believe in long engagements (we were only together 6 months before marrying) but I do now. It takes time to really know someone. You also need to have really experienced life and be older to know the type of person you will become, otherwise you start to question if you made the right decision later.

So, I guess in answer to the question, I love the idea of being taken, but only if it's absolutely right. Happily single isn't a bad thing either.

 

[Terri]

"man friend" thats sounds good. No my Mom won't buy it. Poor guy I don't know how he stays with me. But I think everybody is wearing me down, next time, I might say ok.

 

[kodiakchicken]

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"Love slave?" LOL!

 

[Terri]

That might have been the really good chicken dish he cooked typing.

 

[debilorrah]

I introduce Ken as my love.