What do you say to a dying friend?

[Jencleg]

If it were me...I wouldnt want my peoples be scared to show all their emotions...a lot of times when someone is dying everyone puts on the brave face, which is good, but I think sometimes the person needs to know just how much of an impact they have had on their lives. I will be praying for all involved....

 

[sparkles2307]

It was hard watching my grandma die of mastesized breast cancer. We never said we were sorry, we always said we loved her tho. If we had said we were sorry she would have said it wasnt our doing. Make sure she knows how much you love her and how much life will change without her. And that she'll never be forgotten.

 

[HighNDryFarm]

My brother died of cancer 3 years ago. He was only 40.....he LOVED when people came to see him. Some people were so easy with coming and just being there for him and others just sat a cried. He was good with both ways. There is a strength that comes at the end of someone's life and she will comfort you! You don't really have to say anything.....hug her, tell her how much she means to you or just cry with her. I promise you'll feel better after you see her. I hate cancer.....my brother left 3 young kids, 3 sisters, his parents and a ton of family and friends who loved him (I have his black lab Gracie who was the hardest to tell he was gone)....it's still SO hard...it'll be 3 years on 7/11 but those last 6 months with him while he was going through treatment and the 5 weeks at the end when we knew he was losing the fight were some of the best times I ever spent with him. If there is a gift of cancer is that we get the chance to say how much we loved them and spend the time before they leave us.

I hope you find the strength to go see her.

 

[DuckLady]

Hold her hand, tell her you love her and listen to her if she wants to talk.

 

[sourland]

Affirm your love and friendship and tell her "I'll see you." as you leave. I feel your pain and sense of loss-- I've been there too.

 

[hinkjc]

I'm so sorry.

Be sure to let her know what a special part of your life she has been and will always be.

 

[sfw2]

I'm not sure you have to actually say anything. Just the fact that you're there will probably tell her all she needs to know.

 

[Avalon1984]

I am very sorry for your situation. This is a difficult time for you and your friend and I believe the best you can do for her right now is to be with her. You have been given a very precious gift, which sounds crazy but at least you WILL get the chance to say your good bye’s and to tell her everything you want her to know. Many people lose their loved ones unexpectedly without ever getting the chance to say good bye. It is a terrible feeling to carry around with yourself. I believe that it may be more emotionally straining to be with somebody until the end but there is also something very…very special about it. Not everybody gets that chance. Take it and tell her all you ever wanted her to know, be with her and show her that you treasure her friendship. I wish you both the best.

 

[chickensioux]

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Luckily, she and I have the kind of friendship where we say this everytime we see each other or talk on the phone.

 

[Happy Chooks]

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I agree. I'm so sorry for you both.