- Apr 16, 2009
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I hope that today is a much better day for you. I was thinking last night, and I don't know where he is or what his MOS is, but if he's lucky enough to have any semi-regular down time over there, he can sign up and do a college course while he's deployed. We had several soldiers that I know do that on DH's last deployment because their jobs didn't require them being off the FOB as much as others were or they'd do a little before going to bed on the days that they got back early enough. That might be something he could look into to give him a head start on his college and lets him explore what kind of classes he's interested in and make him feel like he's starting on the path to a great future for you all. You said he wants to get out, so right now he probably feels like he's not doing much for you except causing you extra work by being away........so at the very least, getting him talking and planning about college might get him excited and more proud of himself and what he is accomplishing there.
I reread what I wrote last time and I want to clarify something...........please don't think that I'm saying not to ever vent to him. That's not what I meant. DH and I still have arguements while he's deployed, I just try not to dump the everyday 'the kids are behaving like wild animals' on him constantly because that's a fairly normal thing
and it passes as quickly as it comes. We'd argue about the way I fixed something or a decision I had to make on the spot that he didn't like, but he had to realize it's not like I could pick up the phone and ask his opinion. You ARE in charge there and things will be done differently than if he were home and that's just fine because you took care of it. And by all means, if he's stressed and picking on you for no reason other than to get it out, tell him to knock that crap off. I'd send an email after calls like that telling him that I love him and I know he's just venting, but venting TO me is a lot different that venting AT me......and he needs to get it straight. It helps.
I'm here to listen anytime.
I reread what I wrote last time and I want to clarify something...........please don't think that I'm saying not to ever vent to him. That's not what I meant. DH and I still have arguements while he's deployed, I just try not to dump the everyday 'the kids are behaving like wild animals' on him constantly because that's a fairly normal thing
I'm here to listen anytime.