When ever I get around my horses I'm teaching them something. All horse owners are keenly aware of this. I'm so old and stiff, I make my horses stand still while mounting, wait for my cue to go walk gait, canter. Walk carefully down the ravine. Walk up the ravine. Cross all water thoughtfully and gently. Pause after a giant spook in place to allow me to settle in place, gather my wits, and tell them what to do.
On the other hand, some days my horses have a job to do. They move cattle, drag logs, help me repair fences. If we have a discussion about a certain chore I go back to the basics and make sure the horse understand what I expect. I don't get angry if he/she makes a mistakes, I simply break up the lesson in smaller steps until we have success. I always make sure the horse is physically capable of doing the job I'm asking him to do. I don't expect a 29 year old horse to move cattle all day or do I expect a three year old to work all day. These things take time. And all superb horse owners know to take the time it takes for each individual horse.
Bigshot, my QH rescue, learns things quickly but is on the lazy side and sometimes needs a firm hand. On the other end of the spectrum is Dink, my KMSH. Bred for the show ring, Dink never expected to live on a farm. He's a spook-o-matic, loves dressage, hates the trails, but likes to have a job. His active mind hates trail work. Too boring for him. He thinks of things to do. So, while he never needs a firm hand, he does have to be busy. Although too small to move cattle, he can get the job done. I know his limitations and work him with the calves. He's purty good at herding rabbits which we do for fun because he forgets to spook at one when he knows he's supposed to chase it! He's too nervous to drag logs but will drag dead cows if needed. I'm working on his fear of being eaten by dead plants following him. He's coming along, and he trusts me not to let the horse-eating log get him, but this particular chore will take a long time for him. He tries but his self-preservation is deeply rooted and I respect his nature.
Since I no longer show, I don't drill my horses. I expect them to do the basics, respect me, and keep me safe. In return I respect them for who they are, what they can do, and do my best to keep them safe and healthy. And that is my nature.