Where is the love? -Open discussion for considering our actions

[Cyprus]

Hello!
I'm going to try my best in hosting a civil conversation with the hopes that this won't get shut down.
I would like to ask anyone reading: Have you noticed more general hostility on this forum lately? I have, and I have addressed it previously.
I just find it odd and offputting that there are a lot of fights breaking out in this community everywhere, even where they shouldn't. Respect should be the golden rule, but it is now on the backburner.
I can understand civil disagreement, but that is not what is happening. We are shouting, we are defaming, we are discouraging civil conduct. It has to end.
I shouldn't be talked about behind my back. I should not be drug down for a few bad posts. I should not have to defend myself at every turn. And neither should you.
This is the holiday season. The season for cheer. The season for joy. The season for love.
So please, utilize the report and ignore buttons instead of your keyboard and mouse. Think before you post. Have empathy, not apathy.

Please feel free to communicate your thoughts in a civil manner.
Cyprus

 

[N F C]

Sorry you've been running into this Cyprus. I haven't encountered that sort of behavior but maybe that's because I tend to stay pretty close to the same threads every day.

Good reminder that the report and ignore buttons are available for all to use.

 

[IamRainey]

Can't say I've seen it. But, you're right, if it's happening it would be deplorable and unnecessary.

People disagree. That's natural and inevitable. I think it's acceptable to express disagreement. We can learn from another point of view. Or we can just continue to disagree.

Are you sure what you object to was contention? Sometimes people don't express themselves very well. Maybe what you thought was argumentative was simply blunt. I prefer, for myself, to just interpret things in a positive light. I mean why get hot under the collar about chickens?

That said, enjoy the holidays and I hope you're seeing much more help and support than discord now and in the future.

 

[casportpony]

I hope that you will follow your advice and use the report button too! And I mean that in the nicest way possible.

 

[Cyprus]

Are you sure what you object to was contention?

Confident.
I found posts degrading me that I was previously unaware of. I was not quoted or tagged. Makes it hard to defend yourself when you are unaware of the problem.
They used my full username and called me a child and stupid, a liar and backstabber. And made claims that took seed all unbeknownst to me.
I would call that defamation.

 

[Cyprus]

I hope that you will follow your advice and use the report button too! And I mean that in the nicest way possible.

I did. To little avail.

 

[MillersFarm]

I'm going to have to agree with the above,
I have not noticed anyone being purposely hostile to each other in threads. Although if there are users talking behind yours or other's backs then i'd report them. Or maybe contact them and sort out any conflicts with each other.
BYC is growing bigger and bigger everyday, so yes, you're going to come across someone who isn't exactly the friendliest person. But I would just ignore that person and report them.

 

[casportpony]

I did. To little avail.

What I as referring to was a thread the other day where there were inappropriate posts from you as well as bunch of other people. In those threads it might have been better if everyone had used the report button instead of posting.

 

[Brahma Chicken5000]

It’s very hard to read tones on the internet so a comment may not have been made as a jab, but it comes off as one.
I have encountered some members (mostly newbies to the site) who ask for help and then when they receive advice lash out at the posters. I have to admit they become comical because of how stupid the instigator acts.
If someone online disagrees with my husbandry methods of my chickens that’s their problem. I know what works for me and my birds. I have other friends so if one person online doesn’t like me I don’t care. It’s going to take a lot more than a bunch of online posters to rattle my cage.

 

[RodNTN]

I haven't seen such violent behavior, but I have come across some threads with quite a bit of arguing. I just leave the thread and go back to the ones I'm in regularly.

I agree with @MillersFarm and @Brahma Chicken5000, the best thing you can do is ignore them. If you don't hang around the "hot" forums then you won't be offended. And if you come across a thread that you don't like, or offends you, report and/or leave immediately.

I'm sorry for anything that members have done or said in the past