Where I've Been For The Last Month

[Laurajean]

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Thanks Kimberly. I like to think I'm a logical, intelligent, confident person too, and then something like this happens and really makes me wonder. I guess making mistakes happen, but I am still kicking myself. I told him the day he left, "My father didn't raise me to be a sucker.... and that's all that I'm being here." Just makes me feel ashamed and embarrassed that I could be so trusting. I'm usually not naive. But alas, I do believe everything has life lessons behind it, and I have and will continue to learn valuable things from this.

 

[scbatz33]

LAurajean,
Hope you're doing better. Couple things my grandparents always said.....

No good deed goes unpunished

No rest for the weary

Then my dear old dad always said, Life's B and then you die.

I like to think of it as lesson learned. While I try to be compassionate and help others sometimes the road to Hell is paved with good intentions. And You can't fix people if they don't want to fix themselves.

Glad you got it worked out before you had too much of an investment into the person/situation. But I also hope it doesn't put you off helping other people. Some people actually need the hand up...and not the hand out.

Chalk it up to a "Stupid Tax" lesson of life. oh and it is highly ironic and funny, in that ironic kind of way, about Buddha. We have a Buddha outside too, don't know which one he is, but he always sits predominantly in the yard. Last move I dropped him and cracked his head. DH says to me, "great. like our luck isn't bad enough without you busting up Buddha!" I hope he's not holding it against me...Buddha I mean!

 

[WingingIt]

Well, just really glad you kicked him out. Bet his Dad is just THRILLED to have gotten him back!

 

[Laurajean]

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Thank you for the good advice. No, I will still be a compassionate and helpful person, it's in my nature. I will just go about it more carefully in the future. I can help and care, but not at the expense of my health and well being. That's what it boils down to I think. I just need to be more cautious, while still being caring.

I have been a chronic people pleaser my whole life, from my parents to men to friends. In the last year or so that I've finally lived alone, I've done a lot of soul searching and really have been trying to take better care of ME. This incident is not a good example to illustrate that, ha ha, but it was like a little reminder that I'm "not there yet". Hope that makes sense. I've been proud of myself for taking care of my house, my animals, my bills, etc this last year alone, but I clearly need more work of my assertiveness. We talked about this in the "Irrational" thread, if you followed that one at all. So now I have a new thing to focus on and work on.

As for the Buddha, thanks for getting the irony of that. I'm not superstitious, but my God, talk about symbolic!! I must have 50 Buddha statues in and around my house, of all that he could have be-headed, it had to be my Buddha of Sanctuary. My aunt is a Jehovah's Witness, wants nothing to do with Buddhas, and even she laughed her butt off at the irony of it. That's one funny thing I can take from this mess. By the way, I have the Buddha's headless torso (can't even type that without laughing) and his head on my work bench. Once I'm in a more positive frame of mind, I plan to attempt to glue it back together and re-name him The Buddha of Healing Sanctuary.

 

[scbatz33]

Bravo to you!

 

[debilorrah]

I wondered where you went.

 

[FarmerJamie]

Glad to see you back, pal! I was gettin' a little concerned, but I should not have doubted you....I hope you stay on the mend, phycially and emotionally..

This is new year, with new possibilities. Can't wait to see the chapter in your "life book". Maybe some karoake will cheer you up?

Happy New Year!

 

[crtrlovr]

glad to see you're back, and although you've been through a very rough month, you've definitely had the opportunity for, shall we say, "life lessons". welcome back!

hope your healing is swift and complete.

 

[Laurajean]

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Yeah, he was stapled to my hip, so I couldn't really get in here to start typing about all this until he left. Thank God it's over.

 

[Laurajean]

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Yeah, you should have doubted me. Truth is, I've really had a torrid affair going on with the trash guy.....NOT. Yep, another chapter of the Life O' Laura.

Karaoke? Um... no thanks.

Glad to be back, happy new year to you too!