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Thanks Dave, I appreciate the support. Actually, I've gotten a better overall response then I expected, believe it or not. I understand how some people could wonder how it took me a month to get him out. But he suffers from PTSD and Depression from the war, and I wanted to try and be sensitive to that. It was hard to know how much was related to that and how much was actual laziness. Once he told me he's always been this way (sitting around on the couch long before Iraq), I have to admit I lost some of the sympathy. But I also know he's been suicidal in the past, and so I wanted to be careful in my approach in telling him to leave. My illness was also a huge factor; it's so hard to "be strong" and tell someone to get out when you're in bed and incapacitated yourself. And then, I genuinely thought he would pay me back when he got his pension check, and that I suppose was stupid.
I tried to be as fair and rational as I could, tried to be patient, but the bottom line was that I just couldn't keep sacrificing my health, finances, and emotions trying to "help him out". He just needs a lot of help, and I don't think he's a bad guy, I just think he lives in a way that is not conducive with how I live. But I did let it go on too long, and for that I have learned a valuable lesson. It will take months and months for me to get financially back in order, I have a very limited income. All I can do is learn from this and move on, as you said.
hugs back atcha.
