Where I've Been For The Last Month

[purr]

I'd consider sending him a bill for the door , you probably won't get the money but he may feel some guilt.Do you have another source of heat? I would be so ticked if the glass blew out on mine. We have a furnace but I hate turning it on.

 

[turney31]

You have been missed!

 

[Laurajean]

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Well, he owes me hundreds of dollars overall. You wouldn't believe the money he went through here. I trusted (like an idiot) that he would pay me back. I mean, he gets over $5,000 a month. I never thought he would just stand by and let his wife take all the money and think he could just ride on mine. Anyway, when he left he said he'll send me money. I'm not holding my breath, let's put it that way.

PS: I do have a propane furnace but can't afford to run it. The woodstove is still useable, the glass broke into two pieces, but they are still in the door, so there is a big gap at the break. I'm still using it, it's just not very efficient until I get the replacement glass.

 

[Laurajean]

A BYC friend PM'd me and reminded me that symptoms of PTSD can appear as "laziness", or lack of motivation. I don't know if the PTSD is to blame for his behavior or not. I suspect it's a combination of the PTSD and some general laziness to be honest. I asked him if he always sat around like this and he said yes, that he's never done anything but watch TV except when he was in the war. So to be fair, I don't mean to generalize or trivialize PTSD as just "laziness", although in this person's case, I do suspect it's both.

Either way, legit issues or laziness, all I know is that I can't afford to support him. I can't blame him not contributing any money to my household on PTSD no matter how hard I try. I just know I need to be whole again and can't afford to support him while he's making irresponsible choices, whatever the reason.

 

[purr]

don't beat yourself up about it anymore.I know people who would have taken a lot longer to throw him out. And he abused you hospitality for sure.But you are a good person for trying to be a friend to him.

 

[silkiechick236]

 

[justbugged]

i am so happy your back. I was missing you. I hope that you recover quickly now.

With all he cost you I would sure be thinking of taking him and his wife to small claims court. They may both liable for damages. It would be of replacing some of the things he broke. It sounds like he meant to break things. Because to break that many thing in a short time, suggest that he is raging. It would have been a matter of time before he got to thumping on you.

 

[Laurajean]

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Thanks, I missed you too!

I really don't think he broke anything on purpose though. I think he's just klutzy and foolish. He never acted angry toward me or tossed things around in a mad way, I think he is just not real bright. I don't want to name call, but he just had no common sense, none whatsoever. I watched him trying to force the shed door closed; he was just trying to close it, apparently not realizing that forcing it would break it. The sugar bowl he broke trying to be cute and spinning it on his finger like a basketball.

He'd sit on the couch throwing my toss pillows up in the air and catching them until one would escape and tip over a lamp, that kind of stuff. Just chilidish foolishness.

He bought a big jug of drinking water, the kind with the tap and didn't seem to realize you have to clip off the tab and vent it to use the spout. So he stood there trying to force the lid off until water spilled everywhere. I told him, "Look, it says right here: 'snip off tab' ". He just has NO common sense. None. I don't think he ever would have hit me either. Although it may have only been a matter of time before I lost it on him.

I don't care so much about the stuff he broke because I do believe they were foolish accidents. It's the bills that he racked up and all the trips to the store wasting my money that I'd like to be paid back for.

 

[geosheets]

I was going to say PTSD or laziness it still doesn't explain total lack of common sense... but I see you beat me to it.

I've missed your posts... I'm definately a LJ lurker/stalker or whatever you want to call me... I always get a laugh from your writings.

I have to add, the whole water jug thing... a few weeks ago we bought a jug of laundry detergent that sits on its side and I caught the DW practically sitting on it trying to get a cup of detergent out. I asked her what she was doing and she said 'this d@#% bottle feels like it's half full but nothings coming out'. Sides of the jug are sucked in as far as they could go with still being half full. I reached up, loosened the cap, the sides popped out and the detergent flowed again. I tried to explain to her how and why it needed vented but she didn't care... as long as it comes out now that's all that is important.

 

[Laurajean]

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Thank you. I've had a few secret lurkers PM me but never dare post, ha ha. I think I prefer "lurker" over "stalker". I prefer to save "stalker" for, say, creepy trash guys.