Why did she have to say that...

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Sheesh! Did you win the Crappy Family Lottery?! They sound hateful!

If that is you in your avatar, you are quite lovely. You also are clearly an interesting person who is willing to pursue her own interests. You will be an awesome adult.

True story- In high school there were those people that were the "In" crowd. You know, popular, athletic, etc., etc., etc. I never was. I pretty much marched to my own little drummer and did what interested me.
Flash forward ten years to our first reunion. The "cool" kids had peaked and were pretty much all complete losers and boring adults. Most had lost their good looks and were working boring, deadend jobs. Because life had gone so swimmingly for them in high school, they had no determination. Because they had followed the crowd, they had no interests of their own. Let me say again, THEY PEAKED IN HIGH SCHOOL. How sad is that?

I know it seems like high school will last forever, but this too will pass. I know it seems like your sister will always be "the best", but clearly she is a witch. YOU will be an awesome adult with a variety of interests. She is just trying to push your buttons right now and is succeeding. Ignore her and her hateful little friends.. They are hateful little weinies that will be unhappy adults. The joy of being an adult is that you get to choose who you will associate with. One day you will never have to deal with her again.

The one lesson I have learned with age is that happiness is my choice. Life happens. Situations occur that I have no control over. Good things and bad things happen. I can choose whether I am happy or whether I am unhappy. It really is totally my choice. And it is your choice as well. Now this is not to say that I am always happy, happy, cheerful with little frolicing robins singing merrily over my head. Nope. A really good wallow is great every now and then. But it does mean that overall I chose my attitide. I choose my approach to every situation. I can get upset or I can blow it off and go on with the things I want to do. Happiness is up to me.

I'm sorry your family is being hateful. It's hard when it feels like no one cares. Perhaps you could find a counselor at school, a trusted adult or a clergy member to talk to? That might help.

Chin up, girl! You are a bright, clever, beautiful young woman with an excellant future ahead of you! Go get a little chicken therapy and tell the world to go to h***.

 

[thechickman04]

well then if you have friends in other places just forget all about those people at school and just hang out with your true friends

 

[Picky Chicky]

Geez, have High School standards of what a good looking girl is changed THAT much?? I thought you looked pretty from your avatar. Don't short change yourself.

Try as you might to listen to some of the advice you're given on this thread. And know in your heart that this many people can't be wrong - have some faith in us BYCers.

We all know you're hurting. Talking about it and getting it off your chest helps, but you absolutely are going to need to dust yourself off and stand tall.

If things are really bad.. as geeky as this probably sounds, maybe you ought to consider talking to an adult at school who you feel will understand. If you feel like you can talk to your parents, definitely do that. It's good to get this stress off your weighed down shoulders.

The last thing you want to do is become a negative news story if you catch my drift. None of us here wants to see that.

 

[Debi214]

Don't you worry about those girls - sounds like they are trying to hurt you. Hmmmm - here's a thought - I am betting they are jealous. They have nothing to gain by saying mean things.

 

[georgialee]

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Spend your time with them!!! You don't need people in your life that put you down... even if it is family. Get involved in more things you love doing and you will naturally make GREAT friends with people that have the same interests (how do you think us old folk make new friends? lol!)

 

[WriterofWords]

Ok, you've heard enough of you are pretty and it will all be better etc. Now I will lay it on the on line for you.
1. You are ultimately responsible for the way you feel and see yourself.
2. Yes, it is hard to be bullied about your looks, most of the time it comes from those jealous of you.
3. If your parents and your sister won't stand up for you, it's up to you to stand up to your parents and sister.
4. Does it hurt? Heck yes it hurts, horribly so. What you do with that pain shows what kind of person you are.
5. You can cry and hide and have a pity party, or you can put your big girl panties on, and tell yourself they are full of crap, you know better, and you have to mean it.
6. You need to take control back, because as long as they know they can hurt you and make you cry, they will do it.
7. NEVER apologize for how someone else makes you feel.

A suggested response: You think I'm ugly? Hmm, does that really matter to me? No. Does that make you better than me? No. Does that make it true? No. Am I wasting my time listening to you? Yes. Goodbye.

Take control of your feelings, and don't be a victim.

 

[Emzyyy]

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AGREEED!

 

[Emzyyy]

Your a artist? Sorry for changing the whole conversation but I was looking at your page. I sketch and paint and love what I do. Have you thought of joining a art class at school or afterschool? Im sure their are plenty of people there to meet.

 

[warmfuzzies]

Oh, funny story: When I was about your age, there was a girl who was very hateful to me, and she was my DHs 'kinda' girlfriend at the time. We all went to Church together. DH said she was so nasty, because all along she knew I was the kind of girl he really wanted, and she was jealous. And no, I wasnt the reason they broke up.

 

[KyleD.]

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Opa says it all. Im a junior in high school and i honestly can't stand the way girls act. Your beautiful for who you are. In my 3 short years the girls who use to be drop dead gorgeous still look the same but their true sides have shined and i no longer even speak a word to them. Beauty is only skin deep and who you are inside will soon shine.

I'm going to go ahead and hide now but the girls i use to look at and say eh well she's okay have really started catching my eye. People do things to get under your skin and the ones who brush it off and walk on are the ones who shine walking down the hall.

Take pride in the true friends you have and shield out the bad ones. And always remember the one person who will never turn their back on you is God. He's always listening and always has the answers.