Why don't people listen... Rant

[Ladies-Eight]

I read all of the posts. I can relate to everyone. My husband is the type that knows everything. Whenever I make a decision it's the wrong way to do something and he has the better way. Many times he is right but there are also times when both ways still result in the same outcome, it's just the way we do it is different. We have been together nearly 50 years. Everyone is different. To keep the peace I just listen to him and most of the time do things the way he want's them done. There are times though when I do something the way I think it should be done and the outcome is the same and he doesn't know the difference. I like to keep the peace. Most of the time you can't change someone's personality so you just have to let them learn even if it's a wrong/different way. You can suggest and maybe they will listen. One way I found that works well is to ask the person, what do you think about this or that. It's kind of like making a suggestion without really telling them what or how to do something.

I have a husband that is the same way. We have been married 51 years. One of my biggest problems with him is getting him to understand what I want to do. Once he understands what I'm saying he then gives me his opinion of what and how it should be done.

 

[cmom]

Sounds familiar.

 

[Chullicken]

Too bad no one captured that scene and posted it on YouTube! You'd have surely gone viral and gained much fame! Did you...ever kill the weasel?

Sadly no and in the process I killed my 'pet' squirrel that would hang out with me while I did chicken chores every day. I had nod idea they ate cat food so the weasel box got him, was a sad day for me. Just wouldn't end that month.

 

[Rooapalooza]

I read all of the posts. I can relate to everyone. My husband is the type that knows everything. Whenever I make a decision it's the wrong way to do something and he has the better way. Many times he is right but there are also times when both ways still result in the same outcome, it's just the way we do it is different. We have been together nearly 50 years. Everyone is different. To keep the peace I just listen to him and most of the time do things the way he want's them done. There are times though when I do something the way I think it should be done and the outcome is the same and he doesn't know the difference. I like to keep the peace. Most of the time you can't change someone's personality so you just have to let them learn even if it's a wrong/different way. You can suggest and maybe they will listen. One way I found that works well is to ask the person, what do you think about this or that. It's kind of like making a suggestion without really telling them what or how to do something.

You're totally right! My former supervisor at work was very negative or dismissive about anything that wasn't her idea; I finally learned to get around this by phrasing every suggestion as a question. That's a great strategy for dealing with people who need to feel they are dominate/in control.

 

[David65326]

I am going to make a serious comment, in my 60 years I have come to a conclusion. People like this do not change. She got the chickens on a whim, since she is gone so much. " The Christmas puppy syndrome" to be fair I do not know this person but as a chickenteer, I tend to side with the chickens. I can't deny a person the freedom to become chickenteer. Or the happiness owning and interacting with their flock. All I can do is pray that someone offers to buy her flock from her

 

[WannaBeHillBilly]

You may be right. Perhaps it's time for some,,, underhanded tactics. ( Pause for evil laugh) get a fake newspaper printed and rush over to her house and show her the headline: BACKYARD CHICKENS LINKED TO ZOMBIE OUTBREAK! Amateur chicken owners urged to surrender flocks for testing!

Sadly, you don't have to create those fake news, they're already out, sponsored by the food industry: https://lmgtfy.com/?q=backyard+poultry+salmonella+outbreak
For example the popular web-site WebMD has an article about this topic every year in March: https://www.webmd.com/food-recipes/...mlonella-outbreak-linked-to-backyard-chickens

 

[WannaBeHillBilly]

AWESOME!! You...are my new hero!! Broomstick Man!! If your wife ditches you, feel free to come live with us!!

Thank you very much for the offer! Looking at that event in retrospective, i must admit that i am scared of myself! I had not thought that i could do something like that…

 

[WannaBeHillBilly]

Too bad no one captured that scene and posted it on YouTube! You'd have surely gone viral and gained much fame! Did you...ever kill the weasel?

I set up a trap, but other than a lame, half blind opossum i did not catch anything. And i actually gave the possum something to eat before i released it, that poor guy must be more careful about the ducks than the ducks about him. I don't think he will make it through the winter anyways.
That weasel was never seen again! No trace on the trailcam or the ducky cam. I assume it was a travelling sales weasel…

 

[Chullicken]

I set up a trap, but other than a lame, half blind opossum i did not catch anything. And i actually gave the possum something to eat before i released it, that poor guy must be more careful about the ducks than the ducks about him. I don't think he will make it through the winter anyways.
That weasel was never seen again! No trace on the trailcam or the ducky cam. I assume it was a travelling sales weasel…

I was told by some trappers they are roamers and wasn't anything left for them to stay. I doubt if I was to catch one or five that it would be the same one. I'm smarter now, guess I'll just start over improved.

 

[RIBill]

Just to add to the original discussion, the worst "not listening" person I encounter (WRT chickens) is the person who says, "I've never raised chickens before and I want to. What can you tell me." I say, "You want to start small, maybe 3-6 birds. Give them a secure area, keeping in mind that chicken wire is terrible to use for protecting chickens. Give them food and water." They typically reply with, "I was thinking of getting a dozen chickens." I say, "You really don't want to start with that many. When they start laying, they lay one egg per day. With 6, I can't give away eggs fast enough and in the middle of summer, I end up with 10 dozen eggs in my fridge." They reply with, "I figure I will sell my eggs when I have too many." I reply with, "You'd have to find customers and then, if you do, you have to sell the eggs for at least a price that meets your break-even cost point, which is probably going to be more than supermarket prices."

I've had that EXACT conversation probably 8 or 10 times over the years. Every one of them ignored me. Every one of them ended up getting 15 (minimum late-winter mail-order size) chickens. One got 36 birds. Every one of them was ranting about the effort required to feed, water and clean. Every one was pleading to get people to buy their eggs for WAY less than input costs and STILL couldn't find buyers.