why dose it hurt so much

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by citalk2much, Dec 5, 2009.

  1. citalk2much

    citalk2much Twilight Blessings Farm

    Dec 22, 2008
    GR MI: TN bound!
    My husband and I have been having a very vary hard time (he is drinking everyday) anyway he moved out over the week. I thought I was okay with this its not that I don't love him it is just that I don't like his drinking it makes me not like him. I made my plans to move on with out him. So tell me why is it tearing me up inside today I found out he is dating someone already [​IMG]
    Last edited: Dec 5, 2009
  2. deb1

    deb1 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 26, 2008
    Whoops Double thread. Happens to me a lot
  3. redhen

    redhen Kiss My Grits... Premium Member

    May 19, 2008
    Western MA
  4. key west chick

    key west chick Chillin' With My Peeps

    May 31, 2008
    Gainesville, GA
    I understand the hurt. DH and I have been through some real bad last few years. He moved out for about 8 months but moved back in due to money issues. We live seperate lives, sleep in different rooms but still get along ok for the most part. Just celabrated our 16th anniversary last week. Didnt really acknowledge it.
  5. citalk2much

    citalk2much Twilight Blessings Farm

    Dec 22, 2008
    GR MI: TN bound!
    Quote:Oh that sounds like a living nightmare I am sorry. [​IMG]
  6. 3goodeggs

    3goodeggs pays attention sporadically

    May 22, 2009
    North Central Florida
    From what I know about alcoholics, he just wants someone to drink with.
    It isn't about love.
    I am VERY sorry that things are going this way. I had an alcoholic father. Everyday I wished he would stop. I now know that it is a symptom of something else. It is self medicating with the wrong drug. My heart goes out to you.
    I am sending you a cyber hug. ((*))
    Chin up. deep breath. and think about you and what you need and carry on. Best of luck to you.
  7. teach1rusl

    teach1rusl Love My Chickens

    It's tearing you up because you DO love him, but liking him IS more important. And it's hard to like someone who doesn't like himself. I'm sure it doesn't help much, but you were so wise and strong to save yourself! Until he acknowledges his problem and sees how it's affecting his life and those around him, he cannot be saved from this situation (and too often the partner thinks they CAN save/rescue the alcoholic...no way). Stay strong! Try to find an AL-ANON group somewhere near your area for support! [​IMG]
  8. citalk2much

    citalk2much Twilight Blessings Farm

    Dec 22, 2008
    GR MI: TN bound!
    I knew it would help and it is thank you all for your support
  9. Mahonri

    Mahonri Urban Desert Chicken Enthusiast Premium Member

    May 14, 2008
    North Phoenix
    My Coop
    Maybe a little humor will help....


    You can substitute man for woman and husband for wife, her for him, etc... if you like...

    When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.

    David Bissonette

    After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.

    Sacha Guitry

    I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.

    Sigmund Freud

    'Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.'


    'There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage.'

    Sam Kinison

    'I've had bad luck with both my wives.
    The first one left me, and the second one didn't.'

    James Holt McGavra

    Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
    1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
    2. Whenever you're right, shut up.

    Patrick Murra

    You know what I did before I married?
    Anything I wanted to..


    My wife and I were happy for twenty years.
    Then we met.

    Henny Youngman

    A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.

    Rodney Dangerfield

    A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: 'Wife wanted'. Next day he received a hundred letters.
    They all said the same thing: 'You can have mine.'


    First Guy (proudly): 'My wife's an angel!'
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  10. gritsar

    gritsar Cows, Chooks & Impys - OH MY!

    Nov 9, 2007
    SW Arkansas
    Quote:I agree. I was married to an alcoholic/drug addict for 17 years. You can't fix them. Only they can help themselves.

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