Whyre kids so NERVE WRACKING!?!?!?!?!

[Chicken Lil]

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So sorry for you. Sometimes kids just don't understand thier actions. It is just one of those sad things that can sometimes happen.

Ignore the nasty posts. Especially from people who say thier children are perfect, and always follow thier rules. These are the ones who do not really know thier children. I'm not saying parents should not have rules and consequences for breaking them, just that sometimes parents take it to extremes. If children are overly afraid of doing someting wrong they will either become adapt at hiding thier transgressions, or thier self esteem becomes very damaged.

My 15 yr old is overall a good kid, but she sometimes gets mouthy with me. However, she had a friend who's parents were very strict and hard on her. Courtney was a sweet and polite 16 year old young lady with good grades, and a part time job, but the parents cut her no slack. I say she was because sadly, this lovely young women hung herself last Wednesday. In her note she said she did not feel she was ever good enough for anyone. Some parents just don't see thier children for the individuals they actually are.

You take care, this too shall pass.

And hugs to your little boy too!

Lil

 

[antiquebuff]

So here is mine. The parent is at fault. Not the hen not the child. Even if he was told. He's 4. He lives in the moment. He never would have gotten in there if he wasn't able to get in. There is no one else to blame but the OP in this. This isn't a "parenting" issue. I'm not accussing the OP of being a bad parent. Just that the OP did not have the chickens secure.


This is very well put!
Parents need to take responsibility . ADD is not an excuse for bad behavior. There are millions suffering from that and there are treatments. Don't use it as an excuse.
Every where my husband and I go we witness a child throwing a tantrum and the parents just ignoring it. The children rule the house hold now. When these kids grow up to be teens, look out, you will be in trouble. They may be your little darling but only yours! I have two myself and I know. The old saying of, Children should be seen and not heard, should be put back into force in my opinion!
Teach your child how to behave around chickens and if it does not, don;t get rid of the chicks, just don't let the child around them! Your Responsibility!

 

[Poulets De Cajun]

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Because 4 year olds have the attention span of a flea....


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Agreed...

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Agreed again.... truth hurts sometimes, but welcome to reality.

 

[MichiganWoods]

I don't ignore tantrums. I remove my entire family from any public place we may be in and take everyone home, where I then send my child to her room for her behavior. And this is after they have been warned to behave themselves, and I do get specific. So don't assume that you know how any one else raises their children. I didn't say ADD was an excuse. I AM medicated for mine. But I will not medicate her at her age until we can sort out for certain if that is the issue. I was medicated as a child and it stunted my growth. She is very short and I certainly don't want to make her stay that way.

ETA: I personally don't permit my kids around the chickens anymore. But that doesn't stop them from sneaking out there when I am busy doing housework to try and "play" with them. Ever watch that show where families swap out their wives for a week? I wonder how you would survive a week with my 4-year-old. Probably not very well. And no, that is not an invitation.

Thanks for your post, Chicken Lil.

We're actually not having a bad day over here today. It's just when someone else feels the need to tell me or any other parent who is having a rough day that we're at fault... what does that do for the parent other than lower their self esteem and make things even harder for them? Sometimes the net can be a wonderful place to find support. And then sometimes... you get these folk who think they know everything and they are always right, and feel the need to tell you so.

 

[baldie]

Everything happens for a reason!! Maybe it was not the boys fault. Maybe it was coincidence. The chick could have had problems the naked eye could not see. And that could be why she went after it. I would say no-one is at fault. ACCIDENTS happen and that is why they are called accidents. We just hope as parents that they learn from it.

 

[SLM]

Kids are people and people aren't perfect.

Some people do need a lesson in parenting, but just because a child miss behaves doesn't mean he is bad or the product of bad parenting.

I say take a good look at what happened and learn from it.

Perhaps your hens need to me more kid proof, perhaps you just need to give your child lessons in when it is okay to play with the chicks and when it isn't.

Take a deep breath, sit back and observe what happened in your mind and the best ways to prevent a recurrence.

And remember kids do learn eventually and one day the light will go off in his head and he will know cause and effect when playing with the chickens.

Good luck, and remember this is just one mom's opinion.

 

[HennysMom]

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can we stop calling kids "bad" - gosh I hate that....

irritates me to no end - no child is bad. A child may not be a good listener... they dont listen ..but a child isnt "bad". Cannot stand when someone tells their kid "you've been a bad boy / girl" Tell them they havent been as good a listener as they should or could have been, but never tell a child they're bad.

thank ya'll

 

[SLM]

I agree, and I had to tell my kids over again that there is a difference between being a pain in the but and acting like one.

Everybody acts like one, doesn't make them one all the time.

Just like being bad, they acted bad doing whatever, but that did not mean they were bad kids.

Took a lot of repeating but they finally realized it.

 

[charlielynnsingletary]

ok i have 5 kids ranging from 12 to 4 yrs. in the past years they have all killed something of some sort. they are kids thats what they do. i'm sure in my growing up days i did something like that too. my son who is 4 is always picking something that is alive up. i have had to negotiate the release of many living things, snakes (harmless), baby mice, frogs, grasshoppers, lizards, and here recently a set of baby birds he found in a nest when he was climbing in my azalea bush. moral is it happens we morn and move on. can't stay mad forever.

 

[agnes_day]

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i dont know..sometimes a good scolding is what a child needs. like when my son decided it would be fun to dump rocks in my neighbors fish pond..i told him he was VERY bad and made him clean it up and apologize.