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You know, this thread got me thinking--is it because women (well, girls really) do that horrible snarky thing with compliments as teenagers? "Oh, Priscilla, what a LURVELY dress, did you sew it out of your own potato sack?!?!?!?" *snorfle giggle giggle snorfle*
This actually happened to me fairly recently: DH and I went to his high school reunion, and one of the women whom DH identified as one of the super-chic popular girls in high school did that big sarcastic, "Wow, what a creative dress you've got there!" DH, having absolutely no sensitivity whatsoever to women's subtle interactions, said, "yeah, she made it herself!" Chickie (a grown woman in her 40s, ferthaluvvagawd!) does this eyeroll straight out of Heathers and exclaims, "HOOOLY S*#! You should be on darn PROJECT RUNWAY!" and then flips her hair and goes back to gossiping with her fellow popular girls.
Gee, thanks Heather, I'll just go back to my croquet game now. But what on earth, a middle-aged woman still feels the pathetic need to snot off at someone she has never met before and likely will never see again? And I know old ladies my mother works with who pull the same sort of snotty behavior at her--"Oh, Mrs. Ros, you've got such great confidence! I could never let myself gain weight like you do, I'm just not that secure!" Seriously, 70-year-old ladies who say this nonsense!
My grandmother claimed it taught women modesty. I dunno about that, because the same women who dish out the backhanded compliments can never seem to mind their own drawers properly.
This actually happened to me fairly recently: DH and I went to his high school reunion, and one of the women whom DH identified as one of the super-chic popular girls in high school did that big sarcastic, "Wow, what a creative dress you've got there!" DH, having absolutely no sensitivity whatsoever to women's subtle interactions, said, "yeah, she made it herself!" Chickie (a grown woman in her 40s, ferthaluvvagawd!) does this eyeroll straight out of Heathers and exclaims, "HOOOLY S*#! You should be on darn PROJECT RUNWAY!" and then flips her hair and goes back to gossiping with her fellow popular girls.
Gee, thanks Heather, I'll just go back to my croquet game now. But what on earth, a middle-aged woman still feels the pathetic need to snot off at someone she has never met before and likely will never see again? And I know old ladies my mother works with who pull the same sort of snotty behavior at her--"Oh, Mrs. Ros, you've got such great confidence! I could never let myself gain weight like you do, I'm just not that secure!" Seriously, 70-year-old ladies who say this nonsense!
My grandmother claimed it taught women modesty. I dunno about that, because the same women who dish out the backhanded compliments can never seem to mind their own drawers properly.