Would You Be Upset?

[Wisher1000]

I going to try not to be too cynical here. If he had not gotten the coat, someone at the distribution center would have. The people who work those places (disaster centers, thrift stores, collection sites, etc.) always get first dibs on the good stuff. Write it off. A needy person got the coat you no longer use. If it really bothers you, next time put the coat in the hand of the person you think should have it (and hope it is not traded for drugs.)

 

[dfr1973]

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I would be furious. "Too good" for someone homeless?? Just who does she think she is to make that determination?

(I'll stop here before I get myself into trouble ...)

Yes that comment is rude. I agree.

Would you have allowed her to do what she did if she asked you?

I can't answer for the OP, but if someone running a coat drive asked me, I would say NO. I donated it for a specific purpose - to give to those who NEED it, not so someone claiming to be charitable can pick it over first. I seriously question this woman's motives, between her comment and her actions.

ETA: And if I am the one collecting, I would NOT pick over what was donated, even though I do not have disposable income to buy designer-label clothing myself. It's called personal integrity, IMO.

 

[kuntrygirl]

YOU BET I WOULD BE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm ticked and upset just reading about it. That is a perfect example of why I do not give to "charities" or "organization". I find the person that it needs to go to and I give it directly to that person.

What they did is called STEALING!

It's the same as asking for a $$ donation and then saying it's too much money to give to someone who is homeless.

 

[NovaAman]

I donate. If you can call Goodwill donating. I also take things to the Mission Store. This store is for supporting the Rescue Mission here in Holland MI. I do not throw in stained, ripped, torn, severely used clothing. I do not donate garbage. I do not buy name brand or anything like that. But I will donate only the things that you can safely send your kid to school in. I save the stained, torn, ect for rags. People who are need help do not need our trashed out clothing. And NOT every person who gets a coat at a coat drive is homeless. Some are just people who've not enough money to buy a new winter coat for themselves and their kids too, and need a donated coat.

I would be ticked off at the broad who decided her BF needed the designer coat over the one he had, even thou they donated his in its place. The reason was already stated by PP... Integrity. Plain and simple integrity.

 

[Stephanie739]

I give when I can, what I can, when asked. Once it is out of my hands, I've done my part. If I later find that my donation was improperly treated, I might think twice about giving to such an organization (or person) again. I agree with the poster who wrote anger in this situation is a waste of emotional energy. Maybe that boyfriend was even more needy in his own way...perhaps not homeless, but expected to show up at a job in nicer clothing. You never know. Just my two cents

 

[newchickgal]

I think I would tell her that I'm sorry that your boyfriend is homeless. Yes, I would be upset about what she did. You donated coats to be given to the homeless. I would not trust her on that anymore.

 

[Mattemma]

I would tell her how disappointed I am.Next time I would suggest giving directly to the homeless and telling her/the church why. So a homeless person should not have an expensive anything because they are just losers on the street? Karma for her I hope.She deserves a harsh lesson.

It is like my new stuff I give to thift stores. I expect it will be low cost,and I recently saw items I donated that were priced WAY to high.Atleast it got to the floor,because sometimes people will keep donated things for themselves.

 

[TinyChickenLady]

"Too good for the homeless"!!! Are you kidding?!
I would have, very not nicely, informed her that that jacket is too good for her DH and that's why you donated it. In hopes that someone who is actually deserving would get a jacket.

People like that make me wanna say things that will get me reported on here....

 

[newchickgal]

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[CluckyJay]

Bad things happen when good people do nothing.

I would be fuming. I would have told that woman just how nasty her statement was. If I were homeless and got such a nice coat, it would be a memory to make me smile on some cold nights. If it was a RL winter coat, it was warm and well-made. The homeless need well-made items because of all the wear and tear their clothes receive.

Too good for the homeless, sheesh. That is a terrible way to be. She is not a good Christian at all. To even think that, much less say it, shows how Godly she is. :|