Well, I think a lot of opinion on this issue forms from our individual experiences. When I was growing up, our neighborhood grocery store had a soda fountain and no checkstand near it. You were expected to get a drink and enjoy it while shopping and pay for it when you checked out. It was designed to make the shopping process more enjoyable. And it worked. No one ran up to you and said OMG, YOU DIDN'T PAY FOR THAT SO DON'T TAKE A SIP!!! Intent people, intent. They also gave out a free cookie from the bakery if you asked for one. Small town values, pr, whatever you want to call it, it was danged effective.
So, I don't feel weird getting a drink and taking it through the store. I ALWAYS pay for it-just so I don't forget, I keep whatever it is right next to my purse so it's the first thing to get scanned. I care very much that people never think I would try to steal something. I'm a very honest person and I was raised to know the difference between right and wrong in very clear terms.
Case in point-back when I was a middle schooler, I had a little garden pool that I wanted to put goldfish in. I walked to Wal*Mart and purchased-with my own money-a dozen Comets. Now, bear in mind that it's about a forty minute walk there and back and that at the time Comets only cost $0.05 each, when I got home I had FOURTEEN goldfish. Did I go back and insist that I pay for the extra two?? You bet your behind I did. The looked at me like I was crazy when I explained what had happened. But they took my $0.11 cents and I went back home, happy to have paid for what I received. I could not have enjoyed the extra fish if I hadn't paid for them, they would have been a reminder of guilt rather than a source of pleasure, even though I'm not the one that put the extra fish in the bag.
So, long story short, I never take what isn't mine, and will go to seemingly stupid lengths to right any wrongs I see. But, yes, I will drink something while shopping. And PAY for it. So those of you saying that it's wrong to do, well, you didn't grow up as some others of us did. It's not the fact that she ate while shopping that is the issue here, it's that she didn't PAY for it. I don't usually eat while shopping, but if I were hungry enough I might do it.
But let's just be clear-I don't think PREGNANT people are above reproach just because they are pregnant. That's idiocy. Lots of women use pregnancy as a crutch, and I think it's disgusting. Lots of people use small children as a crutch and I think that's disgusting as well. People wouldn't be so outraged at this "treatment" if it had been a raggedy looking teenager with metal in their face. They would say "good for Safeway, right the wrongs" or something of that nature. Biologically we are programmed to be kinder to small things or pregnancy, it's a mechanism to keep us from killing them. It also makes some people incapable of making sound and fair judgement calls. And, let's be honest, if the worst thing that kid ever faces is 18 hours away from her parents with someone that has her best interests at heart, she's going to have a much easier life than most of us.
Did she do wrong, yes, in plain black and white terms, she did. That's clear, and most of us probably agree that she did wrong. Was it worth going to jail over, maybe. Why? Because of intent. We don't know because we weren't there. It doesn't matter if the item is a $0.05 goldfish or a $50,000 car, taking something that isn't yours is wrong. I'm a firm believer in the justice system, and that it will all work out in the end. I bet she never forgets to pay for a sandwich again.
So, I don't feel weird getting a drink and taking it through the store. I ALWAYS pay for it-just so I don't forget, I keep whatever it is right next to my purse so it's the first thing to get scanned. I care very much that people never think I would try to steal something. I'm a very honest person and I was raised to know the difference between right and wrong in very clear terms.
Case in point-back when I was a middle schooler, I had a little garden pool that I wanted to put goldfish in. I walked to Wal*Mart and purchased-with my own money-a dozen Comets. Now, bear in mind that it's about a forty minute walk there and back and that at the time Comets only cost $0.05 each, when I got home I had FOURTEEN goldfish. Did I go back and insist that I pay for the extra two?? You bet your behind I did. The looked at me like I was crazy when I explained what had happened. But they took my $0.11 cents and I went back home, happy to have paid for what I received. I could not have enjoyed the extra fish if I hadn't paid for them, they would have been a reminder of guilt rather than a source of pleasure, even though I'm not the one that put the extra fish in the bag.
So, long story short, I never take what isn't mine, and will go to seemingly stupid lengths to right any wrongs I see. But, yes, I will drink something while shopping. And PAY for it. So those of you saying that it's wrong to do, well, you didn't grow up as some others of us did. It's not the fact that she ate while shopping that is the issue here, it's that she didn't PAY for it. I don't usually eat while shopping, but if I were hungry enough I might do it.
But let's just be clear-I don't think PREGNANT people are above reproach just because they are pregnant. That's idiocy. Lots of women use pregnancy as a crutch, and I think it's disgusting. Lots of people use small children as a crutch and I think that's disgusting as well. People wouldn't be so outraged at this "treatment" if it had been a raggedy looking teenager with metal in their face. They would say "good for Safeway, right the wrongs" or something of that nature. Biologically we are programmed to be kinder to small things or pregnancy, it's a mechanism to keep us from killing them. It also makes some people incapable of making sound and fair judgement calls. And, let's be honest, if the worst thing that kid ever faces is 18 hours away from her parents with someone that has her best interests at heart, she's going to have a much easier life than most of us.
Did she do wrong, yes, in plain black and white terms, she did. That's clear, and most of us probably agree that she did wrong. Was it worth going to jail over, maybe. Why? Because of intent. We don't know because we weren't there. It doesn't matter if the item is a $0.05 goldfish or a $50,000 car, taking something that isn't yours is wrong. I'm a firm believer in the justice system, and that it will all work out in the end. I bet she never forgets to pay for a sandwich again.
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