I went back and read the OP, and the original accusation that started this thread: "you only love your farm animals for their meat." I think if someone said that to me, I would respond with, "yes, that's pretty much true. And what's wrong with that?"
That comment just seems a little unbalanced to me. If everyone who kept farm animals "loved" them so much they never ate them or allowed them to be processed, and all ranchers were vegan as she suggests, cows (for one) would multiply to an unsustainable level and the ranchers would quickly go broke. It's just silly. Or it seems so to me.