A lil help with a 14 year old

[McCord6]

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My friend knows about the threat. She asked me if maybe we can get some good advices on him.

I wish there was something I can do for you. Just today I had to snap at him cuz my son looks up to him and he isn't a good role model and I was getting REALLY mad that my son was showing action that was like him. I got him into tears for a lil while but I know that isn't going to help by much. I told him that if he doesn't straighten up, he is NOT allowed over my house and he is NOT allowed to play with my son. I will not have that kind of behavior around my pre-schoolers.

Last week, he skipped school then came over to ask to use my internet through his laptop. I flat out told him NO but he kept asking all day, I didn't not give in. Went home pouting. yesterday he refused to get out of bed to go to school, I was brave enough to go in there and yank him out. He got mad and raised his hand at me but I told him that if he even thinks about it, I would NOT put up with it and I will call his cousin, who is a local cop, and make sure he gets the right consequences. I told him that it wouldn't look pretty on his record if he has a DEMESTIC VIOLENCE charges, expecially against a PREGNANT WOMAN and he would never get into the military with that. He backed off, huffed and puffed through the house and got ready for school.
He wont touch me or my husband but he will beat his mom and sister no matter what they do. His mom is now talking to the ROTC director about the problem. The ROTC he is in is for troubled teens but he is enjoying all this way too much to view it as a consequest.

About "WORLD'S STRICTEST PARENTS" Hubby and I didn't watch that show up until a few nights ago and we are HOOKED! I don't think 1 week will work with this boy though but I gotta say, it's worth a shot and I have already told my friend about it. She is looking into it, LOL.

 

[rainplace]

Is she willing to call the police if he gets violent with her or her daughter? It's that part that really scares me.

 

[babylady4]

He skipped school and you did not notify the school he was at your house? Why is he at your house instead of his own? Does this friend and her kids live with you or right next door? He is 14 and would like to play with your preschooler? There is something wrong with that right there.....

If he skips school and you do not notify the school you are as much to blame for this kids actions because you are doing nothing. Time for tough love and get this kids butt in gear. And for goodness sakes he should NOT be allowed anywhere NEAR your son!

 

[cassie]

If this kid's mother is unwilling to have him hauled off by the authorities when he beats up on her or his sister, there isn't much you or anyone can do. She needs to have absolutely zero tolerance for physical violence. I find it difficult to understand why she has allowed this to go on this long. What does she think is going to happen? Does she seriously think this situation is going to get better on its own? I would really like to know the answer.

 

[McCord6]

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His mom knows when he skips school. She notifies the school about it.
Yes, they live right next door to me.

My son and him LOVE to play in the dirt together. They get as dirty as you can ever imagion. NO, I never liked the idea of him playing with my son and Im always keeping my eyes WIDE open when he is around.

He wanted to use the internet again today. I put my foot down and said NO! I told him that the only way he is going to be allowed to use my internet service for pleasure purpose is if

1) Respecting his mother
2) No D's or F's on his report card
3) No skipping school
4) does not throw a temper towards his mother and sister
5) bathes when he is told
6) Does what he is told (THE FIRST TIME IT"S TOLD)

Is that hard? Unfair? I don't think so!


Thank god my son loves to take baths! he can't survive without a bath at night.
Something to LMAO about: I was over there one night talking to his mom and I had the baby with me. She told him several times to go take a shower and he refused. It took my 1 year old to go up to him, yell at him and say BA BA BA BA signing her little sign for bath as well, to finally get him to get off his butt and take a shower. We couldn't help it we were just

There are times when he can be a good kid. I just wish he can keep that up. I told him that it doesn't take beating his mom and throwing a temper to be a man, it takes respect and responsibility.

 

[joebryant]

I stopped reading after about ten replies. This misfit belongs in a juvenile detention center until he's 18, lots of supervised time for him to think about his behavior alone. Then his abused mother will no longer have any legal responsibility for him and can decide if he's worth having around. His sister and other releatives can then decide if they want to try to have a relationship with him.

 

[redhen]

OOh, just never mind...Grrr!

 

[joebryant]

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Yep, she's making it too easy for him to get away with what she's allowing. It's more than likely that he's her favorite since he's her oldest.
Whatever, he needs to be removed from all of them; they need protection now. He can get "help" later.

 

[redhen]

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Yep, she's making it too easy for him to get away with what she's allowing. It's more than likely that he's her favorite since he's her oldest.
Whatever, he needs to be removed from all of them; they need protection now. He can get "help" later.

LOL..oops, i deleted my post saying all this stuff... Becaue i was mad when i posted it..
I was just frustrated that this is even allowed to happen...i feel very badly for the sister in that house with noone to protect her...

 

[horsejody]

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If the mother isn't willing to do whatever is necessary to protect the sister, then the sister needs to be taken by a relative or the authorities for her own safety. Leaving her to live under the threat of violence is very bad.