A question for the men

I usually pass these type questions, but since today marks 32 years of marriage, I'll comment...

We met my junior year in high school and I knew she was the one, although I can't tell you exactly why. We were complete opposites in almost every category that you could imagine, she was 4'11'' and I was 6', she was shy and I was outgoing, she was into quite country and folk music and I was a "wannabe" rock star, etc., etc. For whatever reason, we just knew that it was right. We graduated the next year in May, and were wed in October. We've never looked back, and I can't imagine life without her.

We raised our kids, now 23 and 27 years old, and for the last five years we took care of her father, until he passed earlier this month. Now, we finally have some time to ourselves again. It's almost like dating again, although instead of going out, we sit on the porch and watch the world go by. Life is good.

The bottom line is that I guess, in our case anyway, opposites attracted. The weird thing is, these days we are so much alike, that I can barely tell where I stop and she begins.
 
I think it was her sense of humor or her getting mine. She was fun to be around (over years) and I came to realize (I can be a bit slow) that I wanted to be near her as long as possible. Over time I think our having complementing strengths while sharing goals, similar upbringings, and of course a mutual love/respect for eachother has made us a good match.
 
DH says it was my great pumpkins.
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Probably more like, I was willing to put up with him. No, now he's saying it's because there was a neon sign on my forehead that only he could see that said "keeper."

I kept him on account of he is British and charming, sings a lovely baritone, and wrote me wonderful love letters. And he's totally hawt.
 
Good question !!
I had to think about it for a while. I guess what I first saw or heard or even felt is not that important. I remember when she says to me hey when you going to ask me to marry you.
So I said ok marry me she than said she would have to think about it.
Leave it to a woman.
I think that it’s me falling in love with her every day. Every day she does something to make me fall in love with her all over again. She grew with me
And I had a lot of growing to do. When I made mistakes she didn’t complain. When I was not doing well financially she did not complain. When I was not doing well spiritually she didn’t complain but what she did do was help me, stand by me, understand me, appreciate me, and love me. Not once in a while or once a week but every day. Day in day out. When she got tired, when she got sad, when she got fed up, she loved me, she stood by me, she supported me. When my health went south she was there. When I had a stroke she got a job. Not just any job but I was an electrician laborer. It was a dirty filthy job she talked to my boss and she took my place. But when it really got bad she stayed with the program. My son at the age of fourteen got cancer (Rhabdomyosarcoma). We spent the next two years fighting it and being lost because we felt helpless. She was strong. She stood by her son her husband and her 3 daughters. And than we had another daughter. Her water broke while in my son’s hospital room. I was running back and forth across one end of the hospital to the other. One child being born the other dying. Talk about mixed feelings. And when most women would say, “this is to much” she stood by her family.
Causing me to love her even more and more.
When my son passed she was at her weakest point and still stronger than me.
My Son would have been 20 on Oct-30th this year and she is still stronger than me. Now my diabetes is to the point I can’t work again. My wife is a Phlebotomist at an area hospital and working to support her family working 70 to 80 hours per week.
Sometimes when she sleeps all I can do is watch her and wonder why would this beautiful woman with great strength ever marry me. We have had a rough life. We know what it is like to be poor and to have a few dollars and somewhere in between and all this is what causes an attraction for my wife not just the beginning but also the every day. Day in day out without let up. I am married to the best wife any man could ever have. Every time I tell her I love her I feel like the words I say are not good enough. No words could explain the feelings I have for her. Not because of her deeds as a wife but the fortitude and stamina she has displayed our whole marriage. If I could I would tell the world about her. She is my gift from God. She is my life. She is my Wife. By the way we have been married 22 years this past July.
 
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To put it bluntly: I stunned him. He was shocked speechless the moment, and I mean the VERY MOMENT, he saw me. In mid-stride he froze, mouth dropped open, and he literally gasped for a breath before realizing I had already said 'what's up' and walked inside. When I ask him what it was that got him, he says everything, even though he hadn't talked to me at all before that moment. He said he just knew. Three hours after I met him he told me he was gonna marry me, I thought he was nuts. A year and 5 months later we were married. Go figure.
 
I had to ask DH about this one...I am here to report.

He said it was my deep sultry voice and the fact that I did not need him.

I asked him about the last part of that statement...he said simple dear I was going to be gone at least 8 months every year and if you were with me because you wanted to be with me, then you most likely would not look elsewhere. In short, you did not need me or any other man so I knew you would always be there for me once you gave me your committment.


Strange analogy but a true one so I will not argue with him. Also bear in mind that he and I had never met until I stepped off the plane to marry him. I had no clue what he looked like although he had seen me on TV so he had the advantage. hehehehehe


cjeanean...my father did the same thing to my mother. He walked up to the car she was sitting in and stuck his head in the window and said "I'm gonna marry you one day"...she rolled his head up in the window and got out the other side.
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Some 48 years later, she still swears he just wore her down.
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Don't ask the hubby because you can't get a real answer out of him. We were in Physical Therapy school together and the last 2 years are spent exclusively with a class of the same 32 people. I had spent quite a bit of study time with him and one day my thoughts turned to a date. So I asked a fellow student what she thought would happen if I asked him out on a date. She guaranteed me he'd go and dared me to ask him. Well, I asked him out that night and we have been inseparable ever since. That will be 20 years ago on December 7. We're raising 3 great kids together and have weathered many a storm. My heart still lifts when I see him walk in a room. I still love the look of my band on his hand staking my claim. He is my best friend. And the best part, he loves me and still wants to spend time with me. He wants me to go hunting with him. Most guys I know go hunting to get away from their wives. We work together, live together and now he wants me to go hunting with him, too. Cool, huh?
 
I asked mine.
His answer?

Because I(me) like sex.

How romantic is my hubby:rolleyes:

On the flip side. I cant say "it" was anything in particular.
I was dating someone else when the former boyfriend introduced me to him. I just remember looking at him and knowing I was going to marry him. The ole "bolt from the sky" feeling.
Been married for 7 years. We have a home, a gorgeous and smart daughter. And like 2manyhats I still look at my rings and enjoy knowing that he is mine and I am his.
After a failed marriage that ended really bad. The fact I am where I am now is amazing to me still.
 

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