advice needed please

[Judy]

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Good point.

 

[horsejody]

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I agree.

 

[redhen]

Well, since she didnt respond to your many calls and e-mails, i'd not respond to her wedding invite. It would be simple for me.. OR i'd send her a letter with the invite..explaining how you feel. And that since she cant even respond to your many calls..etc. that you wont be going to her wedding. Then wish her well in life and be done with it.
It sounds to me she wanted to choose another bridesmaid and this is her way of telling you...How rude! IMO

 

[SOchick]

I don't know... I don't think the fiancee has anything to do with it, he seemed pretty cool, and I don't see him telling her not to talk to me, and I don't see her listening to him if he did.

I would like to know what happened. I don't think it was the text message. She has changed alot in the past year (not bad). I think it may be that she has made new friends, and didn't have the guts to tell me, which would have been fine if she had told me, I was going to shell out alot of $$!

 

[NGT ANGL]

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I agree with ddawn. With wedding planning going on, if you attempt to contact her now, you probably wouldn't get a response anyway. I too suspect that she chose someone else and didn't have the decency to be honest with you about it. I would send regrets and a congratulatory card then let her be the one to make the next move. Like any relationship, friendship is a two way street and takes communication by both parties. I must say though if she sent to someone that you don't even know which gave personal details about you and your ex and also gave your maiden name, you may not really want to keep this person as a friend. JMO

 

[Sillystunt]

wait, are you the matron of honor? Wouldn't she NEED to be in contact with you? Don't you organize the bachlorette party? Dang what was in that email.....LOL

I would email her, what's going on! Your her friend, maybe she has something going on personal she is just inverting. I mean your either in the wedding or not....plain and simple!! Like things need to be cordinated!! What are you supposed to just show up in ANY dress??
CALL HER OUT!

Make her give you an answer and if she just blows you off send her an email or message saying...hey there, you apparently have changed your mind in reference to having me and my family in your wedding. We have been friends for several years and a change in your wedding should not change that. Please let me know if i will be in the wedding or just attending. Wishing you all the best xoxoxox

And if she don't respond to that...screw her!! Don't go and don't send her a gift!!! I lost a friend for several years cause i couldn't afford to get her a gift for her wedding. I was single mom struggeling...OH WELL guess we weren't that good of friends after all~

 

[australorpchick]

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I had something similar as well. Looking back, I realized I was the friend. Everything was one-sided. I decided not to call her and see what happened. It's been over a year and not a word. Oh and this person is family by marriage. There's no need for you to contact, you attempted several different times, in several different ways. If she wanted to talk to you she would have called back. Send your regrets and remember it's her loss, not yours.

 

[GaNewChick]

I think she has made her intentions clear. If it were me, I would send a regrets and a VISA gift certificate card they could use for their honeymoon or around the house. Take the high road and don't sink to her level ~ in the end you showed her what you are made of not what she is made of. Just my opinion.

 

[jafo]

Send regrets, RSVP, and stay home. sounds pretty immature to me

 

[SOchick]

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Yep- I was supposed to be the matron of honor. The text was a chain text joke about a bar or strip club. I have emailed and called about every week or 2 weeks since the beginning on May. My last voicemail asked her to call me back, very important, because I had questions about the wedding and dresses, and what she needed help with. This was about 2 or 3 weeks ago. My DH chatted with her on FB since then for a minute or two, but no mention of the wedding. I tried calling right after that (within minutes), and no answer or call back.