Advice regarding stepdaughter

[Grand-hen-ma]

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2x! No sugar coating that either!

You have NO obligation to her anymore. She has her own mother to depend on and she is sucking the life out of your new life. Let you and your deceased hubby in peace and let you get on with your new life with your new boyfriend. It's a NEW chapter!

AMEN!!!!! I agree and if you let her into your life, then you will be subject to all her BS and drama. She will suck the life out of you. Move on. It's time for you!

 

[cravenchx]

I do think after screening calls and refusing requests,
she will, at some point, forget about you, when she
realizes she's not going to squeeze anything from that
rock. I agree, she is NOT your family!
Have you talked to her mother about your concerns?

 

[michickenwrangler]

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Thanks everyone for the advice.

Have not talked to her mother about her since June, and that was mainly my lawyer contacting her to tell her that the daughter had no legal claim to DH's estate since it was under $200,000.

 

[NovaAman]

my sister went thru the samething.... She ended up changing jobs, phone numbers, and even moved.... She did not however have animals to consider...

 

[michickenwrangler]

I was kinda hoping with the holidays that it would die down.

DBF and I went to a New Year's Party last night. When we got home about 1 am, there was a message on the machine from her, (calling me "Mom" no less) and when I checked caller ID, I saw that she had called 3 times.

Changing a phone number is looking tempting now

 

[Mum]

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You can tell her that its less than a year since your husband died and you are dealing with sorting your life out and finding the direction you want it to take. You explain the difference between "keep in touch" and buddies to her

Every 12yo can understand that concept. You wish her well and then end the conversation by saying you will be in touch. Whether you ever do is your choice.

 

[EweSheep]

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Yes, DO IT!

It sounds like she is really crawling under your skin to get your attention. Is there a way you can block her oncoming calls? If not, then changing numbers would be the thing to do and hope she does not "track" you down.

 

[redhen]

I would NOT say anything to her..as you said shes mentally handicapped and would take it badly..
Just keep doing what you are doing, caller i.d and ignore FB request..... theres no need to do anything else...

 

[Mattemma]

Her own dad set limits with her and cut some contact. I would follow what he did. You are right the drama is not worth it.Let her in and the next thing you know you will be hearing her complaints and her whining for cash.

Mentally challendged or not I know people that just refuse to *hear* what you say to them. I would not say anything.Avoid and she will move on. You had no contact with her before.She was a drain on your husband,and will just drain you as well.She will be fine without you,and you will be WAY better without her.

Change the number.Ignore online.

 

[michickenwrangler]

Egad! She's calling again and leaving a message that she wants to come visit soon. (I didn't answer the phone. May have to change number soon)