Advice regarding stepdaughter

[Mattemma]

When she comes say," Go away." If she does not leave call the police.When she calls hang up. If she causes problems with your line you file a complaint with the police.Don't give in. There is no reason why you need to justify your desire to have no contact with her(to anyone).You make your choice and that is the end of it.Sorry to read she is bothering you again.Wishing you peace in the days ahead.

 

[michickenwrangler]

When she called tonight, I told her Sunday wouldn't be good. She asked when would be good, I said I'm trying to get on with my life and it doesn't include you. Don't come over without calling. She then try to strike up a conversation, I told her I was busy and hung up.

Hopefully this will be the last of it.

 

[cassie]

When she called tonight, I told her Sunday wouldn't be good. She asked when would be good, I said I'm trying to get on with my life and it doesn't include you. Don't come over without calling. She then try to strike up a conversation, I told her I was busy and hung up.

Hopefully this will be the last of it.

It won't be. When you said "Don't come over without calling" she took it to mean that some time when she calls it will be OK to come. So she will continue to call. Tell her straight out not to call and not to come over. That may not work either but it is your best bet.

 

[TacomaChickNMom]

Gosh, I kind of feel sorry for her! It seems like she is reaching out to you for some reason, is there any reason why you can't just talk to her a little bit? Can you put yourself in her position - being "slow", coming from a broken home and a father who remarries someone his daughters age (not that it is necessarily wrong, I can just imagine a child having problems dealing with that), and then refuses to communicate with her? I guess on one hand if she is hard to deal with, your husband may have not wanted to "deal" with her, but she was his child and didn't ask to be born. That was a decision her parents made and the right thing to do was to do everything in their power to ensure she has a decent life - even if that means getting her some help for her "problems". She probably feels a little bit unwanted, also. I don't know, it would be easier for you to probably ignore her, but it seems like that's what everyone else has done. Again, I don't know her total situation but sometimes I think that if you show someone you care it can make a big difference in their life.

"For this is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another." 1 John 3:11 NIV

 

[Cknldy]

Call your phone company and aske them to block that specific number from calling. I had to do that once for a trist of my dh's catcalling Works fast and efficiently unless she calls from a different number.

 

[SillyChicken]

She's persisting because you're not being clear.
If you truly want her out of your life, tell her exactly that.
Stop being vague cause she will think there's still a chance.

 

[EweSheep]

Yes, tell her up front and be blunt!

I know it will hurt you more than she would and do it quickly and painlessly!

 

[ve]

What EWESHEEP say. That is the only way.