Anyone else not doing Christmas this year?

[Knock Kneed Hen]

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Thread hijack..
Have you tried any of those dating sites? Thats kinda how i met my hubby...

Okay redhen, looks like you need to start a "How'd you meet your spouse or SO?" thread. I love hearing stories of "how we met".

 

[rebelcowboysnb]

http://www.plentyoffish.com/ is pretty good for that. I hang out there....

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

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Thread hijack..
Have you tried any of those dating sites? Thats kinda how i met my hubby...

Yup. Tried them all. The cold hard truth is that I am old, fat and plain looking. Most of the men in my age bracket are post divorce and looking for Barbie. I am entirely too plain and, quite frankly, too strange for them. The only men that ever expressed an interest were almost my dad's age and that is just too oooky for me. I am now too old to have children and too old to be noticed by men. It's over.

Having given up on it happening doesn't make it hurt less. Generally I can deal with it. This time of year is just harder. Life will be better come January.

 

[redhen]

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Thread hijack..
Have you tried any of those dating sites? Thats kinda how i met my hubby...

Yup. Tried them all. The cold hard truth is that I am old, fat and plain looking. Most of the men in my age bracket are post divorce and looking for Barbie. I am entirely too plain and, quite frankly, too strange for them. The only men that ever expressed an interest were almost my dad's age and that is just too oooky for me. I am now too old to have children and too old to be noticed by men. It's over.

Having given up on it happening doesn't make it hurt less. Generally I can deal with it. This time of year is just harder. Life will be better come January.

Gah!! Yur nuts! Its never too late! Dont say that!!

I'm telling you there ARE men that like women that are a um... fluffy. Trust me.. i'm not skinny anymore...

(Once i hit 30... it was all over..

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There are older persons dating sites... or middle age dating sites...
You have A LOT going for you... you're educated and kind and from what i can tell from your posts.. you have an awesome personality. Trust me.. there ARE men out there that feel JUST like you!! Men have the same self esteem issues as us women..
Not all men want Barbie.. They just want a good woman they can be friends with and trust..then the rest will follow....



I'm gonna do a search and send you links.. you better use them too!
There IS someone for EVERYONE... you just have to make a bit of an effort to meet them sometimes...

Okay.. now i'll stop nagging..
Much love and know that there are folks here that care about you.

 

[mulewagon]

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That's the way I felt five years ago. Married for a year and a half, now! Don't need kids, have chickens.

Dating sites are great because you can tell all about your weirdness and meet up with the guys who are looking for someone like you.

Oh, and this really helped me: invest in a professional portrait, by a really good photographer (not Kmart!) That can be an astonishing revelation. I looked much better than I thought! Then I used it on the dating sites

 

[Mahonri]

We have kids, we are doing it, but scaling back alot.

The only area we are not is chickens..... LOL

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

(hijack over!) Not us! We do light the Chanukah lights and a Yule log, but that is it. No shopping nonsense either. And when the sappy holiday movies get too much, we break out all the Die Hards, Rambos, old John Wayne movies, and anything with Chuck Norris. Then we pop up some popcorn and indulge! Between that and football we manage to survive til January.

Rusty

 

[welsummerchicks]

I honestly do not feel dating sites are really of much use except for a lucky few - in ngeneral attention on dating sites tends to go basically by looks. Full of people who are cruising for brief encounters based on looks. Furthermore, it is passive, and it does nothing really, for having a big change in one's life.

To the lonely single woman - sorry, but need a little gentle shaking up. It does not matter if someone is plain, old or anything else. There is someone for everyone in this world. Enjoying life is never really over until it's over.

Make a change. Change your thinking, change what you do, and your life will change.

Get out. Get involved in something useful - do volunteer work at a hospital or homeless shelter, or join a club that is active in the community. Join a church group, volunteer at the local Therapeutic Riding Center. Get involved in nature conservation, help clean up litter, help at Habitat for Humanity. Learn to hunt, or ride horses, join the local Beekeeper's club, do something that means something to you.

Have a passion in life. Have something that makes your eyes light up when you talk, that gets you excited, and feeling useful. No, not something solitary, like feeding your chickens. Sure, feed your chickens, but then get up, get moving, and be with people. Put on a bright red pair of shoes, stick a flower in your hair, and take a big breath of fresh air.

The rest will take care of itself.

 

[purr]

Citygirlinthecountry, My dad lost my stepmom 6 yrs ago and I seriously thought he was going to commit suicide ,he even told us he was.
Two years ago he started dating as you put it "a fat old plain" woman. And she saved his life and I am so grateful to her. I will never stop missing my mom but now I don't have to lose my dad too.They spent last weekend in vermont at her daughters wedding and they had a blast! He's smiling again

So please don't think you have nothing to give.You are special and unique and there is someone out there who needs you

 

[SillyChicken]

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Couldn't agree more. Maybe you're trying too hard. Stop looking, focus on yourself, get involved with your community, someone will find you! If you want a family, make one, there's foster care... big brothers/big sisters...Volunteer: at the "Y", at the library, the hospital to hold babies, shelters etc...there's plenty of ways to get kids in your life.


I'm not religious, but I don't mind holiday greetings of any form... even ramidan... (sp?) I would lean more toward a Happy Solstice, but thats just me. My family no longer does gifts for eachother except for one kid. We have a big dinner together and have a good time. My family is religous, but I am not (and think my sister is leaning my way as well).

Last year I didn't even decorate at home cause I put up 3 trees at work.....was kind a tree'd out (and that is my favorite decoration) besides the lights. Heck when we designed our home I always thought about how cute it'll look for christmas... and have yet to even put up any lights in 5 years. As far as the commercialism. You can choose not to participate. Alot of times we'll shop through out the year or day after christmas and buy gifts then (of course now it doesn't matter) I will by my DH something but thats it.