Broken Heart...please help me. update pg 5

[The Chicken Lady]

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People who know you on here know you're a super-cool guy.

I doubt the point of this thread was "guy bashing," don't take it personally.

Instead, we're just trying to figure out how to help the OP deal with one specific guy. If you have any insight into the operations of the male brain (which at times can be as mysterious to females as females are to males), I'm sure the OP would appreciate it.

 

[redhen]

Hi, i cant give ya any more advice than these wise ones here have given you,.....except that when the right one comes along..you will KNOW it...you'll have to beat him off with a stick he'll be so into you. ..honest....dont EVER chase a man..i know thats easier said THAN done..(i've been where you are now..) but trust me honey, i swear you will meet the "Right One" someday! Take a deep breath, call some girlfriends, go out and have some fun!..

 

[hypnofrogstevie]

My cousin used to have the same problem and came to me for advice. I told her to let things go and if he comes back to say no and find someone better. Dont rush out to find someone new. Take some time to let your heart heal then when your ready, try again.

Word of advice. Never ever let your friends hook you up with a total stranger. Get to know the guy then let him ask you out not the other way around.

Hope I am not being preachy but thats as much as I can think of

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Also like I said before. With every break up your heart gets stronger.

 

[MissChee]

Try to stop by his house
o.o

 

[Krysstyllanthrox]

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Said once to my mother who let me vent about all my problems one time and then told me they weren't a big deal.

"They're a big deal to me. Yes, horrible things are happening in the world right now. Yes, people are suffering. But within my life, in this moment, this thing is a big deal to me. And that alone makes it valid. Feelings are always valid, no matter what they are."

To the OP, it hurts, it sucks...but don't chase him. I know it is a cliche, oh how I know, but true and lasting love happens when you least expect it. I've lived that cliche, and Feb will mark 5 years together over 2 of them as a married couple.

 

[krcote]

Everything happens for a reason. If it was meant to be it will be. Two of the biggest things I live by. Try 'em, you might like 'em!

 

[kstaven]

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You said it here yourself" You where never officially dating" At that point many 18 year old guys don't even think about running away without explanation nor do they really think about how it effects others. By the time it hits him that he hurt you he will likely be to gutless to talk and admit it.

Or you may have had the problem that he was feeling to much for you and ran scared. Commitment is a scarey thing for guys his age.

Either way it was likely more something in him that made him rabbit than anything you did or said. Better will come into your life. Think of this as a learning experience and what to look out for in the next one that comes along. Unfortunate and many times heart breaking, but that is how we learn about relationships and grow.

 

[Cetawin]

First I will start by saying that I am sorry this happened to you but will warn you that it will probably not be the last time.

It can sometimes take many years, many frogs and a lot of tears before the prince comes along. It is not easy but you take it one day at a time and do not worry about finding someone else because that too will happen in time.

Young men are not always the brightest creatures when it comes to a female's feelings...for that matter some older men are not either, but there are good ones out there. It took me 37 years and two divorces to find the right one and I thought all the good ones were gone when out of the blue, I met him.

Occupy your time as much as possible and keep your mind focused on other things. The less time you have to dwell on it, the better. Hang in there dear because it will be okay.

 

[babychickfarmer]

Thank you all for all the support. It is really nice to be able to some on here and find some compfort when I can not find it anywhere else....

So I gotta a hold of him by texting him and he told me he wasn't over me and that he just stopped talking to me because I had been hostile and mean to him so he wanted to give me a couple days to cool off and then he wanted me to call him at 6 last night so I did and he didn't evenm answer....I'm gettin over it becuz it's startin to get old. We most likely will hang out again but I am going to figure this all out. I know this might not be the best plan....but me and him grew up together since 6th grade and I am good friends with his twin sister....so I can't just end it without closure. Thank you again. and I will prolly keep everyone updated.

 

[spook]

Babychickenfarmer some day you will be able to write a book by using all this great positive points. Just keep in the very front of your mind, each one of us are different, yet we all have to go through the same life lessons.
I cannot begin to tell you some of the emotional crap that I've shoveled through the years, that I allowed myself to stand in and all that crap. I do want to say, it took me until I was 37 yr old before the right man found me.
Who would have guessed, I had given up on companionship because each fella that I "tried out" would drop me when I said "I take care of my mom (Dad, Gram have passed)and I live in her home". It happens to be a very educated choice on my part, as you cannot choose between a boyfriend and the love of a parent in need.
When DH found me, online no less, I blurted out all those things that would be painful down the road...he actually commended me on being family orientated and found those quirks that I wear to not be a problem.
Imagine.
So when your least expecting it, without having to change yourself because you will be celebrated for owning chickens, going to shows and laughing telling about your chickens....lol..he is going to love the true and real you.
Trust me. Not every man is going to be Romeo, but those frogs that make you hop are the ones that are going to lead across that pond to the real Prince, just keep the faith.
~Kel