BYC Café

[3goodeggs]

Iit would have been nice if my husband had opened a door or helped me with my coat.
I think that would have been sweet.

I still unloaded a tractor trailer of soil (wet soil) while he drove around delivering plants..,
I pulled more than my weight and my body was not made like a man's body.
I am paying the price now.
My husband bought 80 pound sacks of cement for me to carry because he saved 12 cents by not buying the 60 pound sack.
When I found out that it came in 40 pound sacks I was so furious I could not talk to him.

He spent way more than that at the chiropractor getting my ribs put back into place.
Women are as smart as men, in some ways smarter. I think as long as we are willing to and allowed to do to our abilities, that is feminism.
Trying to do what men do is fine, but f it breaks you, Why?

 

[OrganicFarmWife]

Well, I read your words, but I will continue helping my wife with her coat, and chair and opening doors for her.  Is she a pushover or less than me?  Hell no!  She is far more than my equal, but I was raised to respect others.  Yep, I open the door for men and children too.  It's called respect.

I think you misunderstood me friend. I agree that is the way it should be.

 

[Bunnylady]

In his book "Gracie, a Love Story," George Burns says his wife, Gracie Allen, expected to be treated with respect. If he didn't open the door for her, she'd kick him in the butt.

Here in the South, it's still understood that a gentleman opens doors and allows the lady to go first. When I'm wearing muck boots and my barn coat and have mud and hay clinging to me, it feels a bit silly, but it is still nice to get that little nod to my femininity. It's not an insult - letting the door swing back in my face would be an insult!

 

[Bridebeliever]

With this whole conversation it got me to think...maybe after I use the toilet I should put then seat up for my hubby...and when he uses it he can put it down for me!!? Course it wouldn't always work if one of us used the pot two times in a row. But the thought is nice!

 

[tjo804]

Oh yes George and Gracie

That was an old fashioned love!

Old Fashioned went both ways The man did heavy lifting and open doors

And the Ladies made food and brought fresh drinks.
Both are things each could do for themselves, but because they had a loving partner they didnt have to.

Now My Son opens doors and does the heavy lifting. (He learned by watching his dad)
But his Fiancee Cannot cook and will not do anything for him he could do for himself.

My point was not to teach boys to be nasty but to teach girls as well that being treated special is not a one way street.

 

[OrganicFarmWife]

After rereading my post I understand the confusion. But I absolutely agree, respect goes both ways and there is nothing wrong with chivalry.
I also agree that women do not have the same amount of brute strength as men (I actually got into a debate with a feminist recently about this, she demanded proof it was easy to find).

 

[sourland]

Anyway, all of this is far too serious for the BYC Café. Did all of this really start because of the position of toilet seats?

 

[tjo804]

Sorry
You are right sourland

 

[Tumbling K]

Oh my! I have tons to say on this, but it will have to wait until tomorrow. You folks sleep good, keep the coffee pot on and I'll talk to you tomorrow

 

[Bunnylady]

After sitting on the warmer all night, the coffee ought to be just about stiff enough for you tomorrow morning . . . .

G'night, John-boy . . . . er, um Bert!