he sounds pathetic. Some years back there was a TV show here about delinquent 'yoof' spending time in American boot camps for such people, where they spent weeks in a tough love environment, with lots of outdoor time and tasks whatever the weather, in a group with other people like them (so could see how irritating their attitudes and behaviour are!) and some VERY patient staff who kept them safe but challenged their thinking. Do such places still exist there? They transformed most of the UK youngsters who attended them in these programmes.Apparently when I'd asked for help, his "NO" was supposed to be a funny joke.