Check out www.ravelry.com - it's free and they have a ton of great free patterns. I've found alot of easy hat patterns there and have learned alot. If you want to learn how to do a specific stitch, just do a search on the stitch name. There's alot of videos out there that show you step by step. Next best thing if you have nobody to show you in person! Keep at it and don't give up. Sounds like the pattern you tried wasn't very good.