Childfree

[Glenmar]

Yep. I never saw anyting cute in a human baby picture. I am a girl, but I guess I just have no motherly instinct.
We should not be treated second class in the workplace or anywhere else because we don't have kids. There are lots of people out there who have kids that should not have kids. But sometimes society still thinks there is something wrong with a female who does not want kids.

 

[Randy]

Unfortunately.

I guess I'll die old and alone and my chickens will pick me clean and people will think I'm a leftover Halloween decoration.

 

[Glenmar]

Do people have kids just so someone will take care of them in there old age???
I really don't understand why people want kids. Someone once told me it was for immortality. Can't you write a book or discover something great, then people will remember you.? You don't always have to have kids.

 

[Farmer_Dan]

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[Katy]

I have an aunt and uncle who chose to remain childless and I will say they have regretted it and have said so many times. I'm sure there are people who are at peace with their decision, but not everyone is when it's too late to change it.

I have kids and grandkids and can't fathom not wanting them, but each to their own decision.

 

[cafarmgirl]

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For me that had nothing to do with it, it was about having a family with the man I loved. I didn't like babies/kids when I was growing up and I always said I would never have children. We were married 5 1/2 years before the first one came along. One day I just realized that I wanted very much to have a baby, a little someone who was part of me and part of my husband. Now that the first one is getting older I'm looking forward to grandbabies someday.

Other people's kids on the other hand.... no thank you! I still feel the same as I did when I was a teenager! And I don't expect other people to like everyone's kids either.

It did really irk me when I was working and was always strongly expected to defer to the woman with kids in regards to time off, holidays etc. just because I didn't have kids. Somehow this made them and their families more important that mine!

 

[KimberlyJ]

I don't have kids. It's not that I didn't want them, it just didn't happen. I married a man at age 40 who had 3 teenagers, he said he'd be willing to have another one but only if I absolutely, positively HAD to have one of my own. We decided on a Boxer Puppy instead

At work there are 7 ladies, only one has a child, all the rest of us just don't!

 

[secuono]

I am and always will be. I have lots of reasons, the stress before and after, birthing, money, less time, and lots of other things. I just can't deal with them, not for me. There are enough people on the planet and already running low on food and space, no need for me to make it worse. If I ever do get them, I'll adopt.

 

[Glenmar]

I agree with you here. It just seems that people who have kids loose something of themselves. They somehow become less interesting. All conversations suddenly become about their kids. Can't people have kids and still be interesting?? It seems that when people have kids, their lives stop, and everything revolves around their kid. Maybe that is how it is supposed to be, but that is why I knew it was not for me. I have met only a handful of people who maintained a life independent of their kids.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

I have one child. I have to say growing up I never wanted kids. I loved everyone else's kids, but never wanted any for myself. I enjoyed going out and partying and such. Now, I'm a full time Mommy. I honestly can't see the appeal of the old life I had. Do I wipe snotty noses and change dirty diapers? Yes. But I also read bedtime stories, sing silly songs, get hugs, snuggles, and kisses. There's something amazing about being the greatest thing in the world to one little person. I know that no matter what, that little girl loves me unconditionally. Cause I'm Mommy. There's something so rewarding and amazing about being a parent that it cannot even be described. I might always be tired, my clothes might have little dirty hand prints on them at times, I might not be able to go out to the coolest new hang out with my single or child less friends, but I do always have someone to play with. I never go one single day without smiling and laughing or being amazed at something she does. I'm never lonely, and I never go one day without a hug or a kiss. Being a parent does have it's rewards. It's not cool, but your parents obviously didn't think it was too bad either.