Daughter broke up with boyfriend and I'm the one depressed!

[feelinglost]

My daughters ex texted me today and said he is having a hard time focusing and so much is going on in his family. My daughter said she was wanting to text him but he told her to never text him again so I said it's probably best to give him some time. Is that the right thing to tell her. I told her I didn't want her to get upset if he talked to me and she said no he needs someone. I just wish things could go back to the way they were a month ago...

 

[Flock Master64]

When he said to never text him again he probably wasn't serious and was just upset when he said it, I would wait a bit then try talking to him in person

 

[connie1966]

I agree with flock master, he was angry and hurt I guess, I would give him some space, and I know shat you mean I wish the same

 

[feelinglost]

So she should try at a later time to talk to him in person? He went from sad depressed to mad. Is that just his way of dealing with it?

 

[Flock Master64]

I don't know him personally so it's hard to say if that's his way of dealing with it

 

[feelinglost]

Boy is night time the worst for me... All I do is think about how things should have been different. I wish my daughter could just see what she had. I have only gone one day without crying and I have no idea what my daughter is even doing. I hardly get to talk to her. I feel like my mind will never stop thinking.

 

[feelinglost]

Sorry to keep posting but I don't want to talk about this to anyone else and I don't think anyone else understands anyways. My daughters ex texted me several times today and is really having a hard time. So much is going on in his life and he is struggling so bad and I wish my daughter could be here for him like he was for her when she needed him. It breaks my heart to hear him go through this without her. He was so good to her. He made sure she was taken care of before himself and was always thinking about her no matter what he had going on. How can our daughters not see how good they had it?

 

[connie1966]

Poor kid it's so sad, I don't know but they are young people grow and change I'm sure my daughter loves him but is just not in love with him anymore, I left a good guy when I was young I only realized it when I was in my 30's when it was too late it's life . I cried for three years daily! I still do sometimes it's hard, and nobody gets it only one friend I just reconnected with who's going through the same thing

 

[feelinglost]

I've been with him all morning and I hate to leave it kills me to know that him and my daughter aren't together.

 

[feelinglost]

Connie1966

I don't know sometimes I think I will be ok and then others I am a basket case. I was with him and his brother today and they talked about stories about their mom which left them a couple of years ago. Just left her kids and she doesn't even care. Now my heart breaks for them both. I really don't know how a mom can do that to her kids. I sometimes wish I didn't care so much about people. I just wanted to tell them both I will be their mom...