Did you know that your child could be in danger?

[Camelot Farms]

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Uummmmm. No. This is far far far far far beyond that. These things wouldnt even be considered normal by most adults.

 

[Whispering Winds]

If that is the case, far far from being normal, then she is a victim herself and that needs to be addressed. This just baffles me. Illinois can be a crappy state to live in, as far as economy, jobs and politics, but they do have an underage predator law and they are usually very impressive about handling it to the full extent of the law. This just floors me . . . .kids don't make stuff up like that at young ages, unless they have been party to it, and if your daughter told this, and they didn't investigate the perpetrators family for a violation, then someone dropped the ball. My heart just aches for your daughter, I wish there was something I could say to help, but I dont' think anything will help this unless its justice. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[Camelot Farms]

I did send them a certified letter with return receipt today letting them know that the property is posted and they have been served notice that they are considered trespassers and should they come on the property, they are in violation of some state code and blah blah blah. I take a copy of the letter and the return reciept to the Sheriff and then if they come here, they can be arrested.

I also managed to get ahold of the State program for Sexual Assault victims and they have forewarded my email to their attorney. Fingers crossed.

Talking to the parents is not an option. The mother came here to the house last week while my daughter and I were outside. My daughter was terrified. We had always told her that her home was safe and that they woudl never come here. So her showing up here has got DD back sleeping in the living room rather than her room to be closer to us. She also forces the dogs to sleep there with her.

I am not able to plaster the neighborhood with signs as this would be considered 'bullying' of a child by an adult. *banging head on wall*
So, this child entered a new school yesterday and is now surrounded by unsuspecting children and their families.

Sad. Sad. Sad.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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I know this will sound like I am in denial, but I spent 10 years as a crime victim advocate. I know the traditional picture of an offender. This child does not fit it.

All of her knowledge has come from the Internet. The kind of sites that have lots and lots of X's in them. Apparently, she has a pc in her room and spends hours watching videos and live streams. This was the 1st piece of info that DD was able to share with us. And it went down hill from there.

The parents are certainly guilty of not providing adequate supervision etc etc. I have known these parents for 5 years and never viewed anything suspicious. And I tend to look at all adults pretty suspiciously. I guess I should have been looking at everyone, not just the adults

 

[noodleroo]

This is so sad. I'm glad you posted your property and sent them a letter. I'd still send another letter saying what I suggested in the earlier post. I would go after the parents. Their child is a predator but is probably a victim, also.

I would also make it as uncomfortable to live next door to me as LEGALLY possible. Bright lights in their direction, about 25 'screaming' silver laced wyandotte roos, start learning to play the bagpipes and practice outside...get creative. I wish you and your family well.

 

[arabianequine]

I thought it was not slander if it is true?

The noise will get the cops called on you so don't do that.

Are the two children going to the same school since you live so close?

 

[babylady4]

You are fully within your rights to place a sign in your yard stating a molester lives nearby. No names, no address; how is this considered bullying?

Noise? As long as you are within the limitations of your ordinance you can do what you need to do......... perhaps peafowl???? Find all tha annoying neighbor threads and investigate what these annoying neighbors get away with within the limits of the law. How close are your houses anyway?

There HAS to be some way of filing a civil suit against these people; it is done all the time whether a person is found guilty of a crime or not.

I find it ridiculous that you have absolutely NO options in this case. Start making a pain out of yourself and go higher up the food chain. BE the squeeky wheel!

 

[Camelot Farms]

Babylady....I guess, from what I am being told, that my options are so limited because the offender is a child.
I cant file suit against a child, I cant bully a child etc etc

And, unless another victim comes forward, it will be my DD's word against the offenders word and a Judge wont find against them on that.

I have contacted our states Sexual Assault program in the capital city. They are forwarding my info to thier attorney to see what he/she thinks.

Cross your fingers.

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

Actually, the state of New York just ruled that you can indeed sue a child. There is another thread on here somewhere about a judge that ruled that the estate of an elderly woman run over by a 4 year old on a bike could indeed sue the child. Perhaps there are hidden options?
I don't know. I feel for you and your child though. It's stuff like this that brings a rise to vigilante-ism.

 

[Hollywood Chickens]

I totally understand the economy situation, but does she have an aunt or uncle or grandparent that she can stay with? this child is terrifying her and controlling her life, if it doesn't stop soon you may not be able to reverse the damage. she has to get away from this child fast! she cannot begin to heal until it stops.